As you know, we will be moving into my parents’ basement this weekend. We’ve known ever since I decided to quit teaching that it was a possibility. We hemmed and hawed between finding a super cheap apartment (which means very tiny and very low quality in Salt Lake County–housing is expensive here) or Justin adding 35 minutes to his commute and living with my parent.
We wanted living with my parents to be a last resort. I mean, you know the stigma of returning to your parents’ basement–you’ve failed financially, life isn’t working out for your, etc. We’ve always been proud of the fact that we both graduated from college without debt and the fact that besides the used car we are 2/3rds done paying off, we have absolutely no debt. We’ve lived in nicer housing and have had more amenities than many couples our age. We had enough in savings to completely cover the cost of my pregnancy and labor with Rhys. We technically could afford to stay here, but that would mean living paycheck to paycheck with no savings or wiggle room. So, we swallowed our pride and accepted my parents’ offer of temporarily moving in with them.
And, we feel good about it. We feel at peace. We feel that God is telling us this is a smart move for us. And, it will also help us to grow and learn.
So, we are trying to look at the bright sides of moving into my parents’ basement. Because, when you are strapped for cash and having to rely on family help, it doesn’t mean you are a failure. There are some positive outcomes to temporarily moving back.
We do have to get a storage unit for our stuff, and we will have to help out with food costs, but we will be saving so much money. All of that extra money will go directly to building back up our savings account. This is the biggest plus–we are saving a ton of money.
We have the emotional support of our family. My parents have been in the same situation when I was very young, so we’re not alone. My parents also happen to work about 15 minutes away from Justin, so carpooling is an option. We will also be able to help and support them. Both my parents work, one sister is away at college all day, and the other has high school. So, they don’t have homemade dinners often, and cleaning is sporadic. I will be helping them with that.
Rhys will be very entertained. He has two puppies to play with now, plus two adoring aunts, and two grandparents that spoil him like crazy. Justin and I will also have adults to talk to. I will be able to strengthen my relationship with my two sisters, especially my sister who is ten years younger than me.
I’m not going to lie. This one is a little selfish. My family has DishTV and Netflix–all the shows with recording capabilities! They have all the craft supplies I could want, including a sewing machine. And the kitchen! Oh the kitchen! KitchenAid mixer, immersion blender, and so many other fun cooking toys! And a quality washer and dryer!
Growing as Adults
Life won’t be perfect. I’m sure there will be disagreements, arguments, and tensions sometimes. Sometimes we’ll just all be annoyed with the lack of privacy. But, it will help us to continue our growth as adults. We will learn patience like never before. We will learn humility and gratitude like never before. We will learn service like never before. We will learn teamwork and cooperation like never before.
We don’t know how long we will be living with my parents, and it’s definitely going to be a full house with us three, but we are just so very thankful that we are able to. And aren’t going to take it for granted at all.