I love networking on blogs. I love being able to meet new people and discover their lives. It’s an easy way to “people watch” from the safety and privacy of your computer screen.
One of these girls I met was Shelby Clarke from Adventurous Shelby. And I’ll agree to that title–Shelby seems to have a voracious appetite for life and it’s adventures. She loves living, she loves God, she loves Stitch Fix, she loves her fur babies, and she loves her husband and Christian marriage. So, I’m going to give the time over to her to talk about how she and her husband keep the spark alive in their marriage 8 years after they said, “I Do.”
First of all make sure you are both listening, there is no point in talking unless you both plan to hear the other. Speak from you heart and be willing to try and see your partner’s point of view. My husband is a chaplain, so being honest about our feelings is natural. That is not to say we don’t have our moments, but when we do we take a step back to listen and respect one another.
Spend time together.
My husband is an introvert and his job requires being fairly extroverted. So when he comes home, he is mentally exhausted. As much as we love getting together with friends, we also love our quiet evenings at home with home cooked food, and snuggling on the couch to watch jeopardy. Find what you both enjoy doing, don’t worry about what other people are doing or think.
Try new things together.
If one of us expresses an interest in something, we both give it a go. Even if only one of us ends up loving it at least we tried together.
Just because you are in this relationship doesn’t mean you can’t be who God made you. For me this means trying new recipes (and failing miserably), crafting and journaling. My husband really enjoys reading and writing poetry. It’s always nice for us to do things together but when we do things separately, being able to share that with the other is extremely meaningful.
Surprise your Spouse. I don’t mean with a trip to China or a new car. I love to surprise my husband with his favorite meals, or with dishes that he hasn’t had in a long time. He surprises me with trips to the movie theater or a new journal.
|Shelby Clarke–Adventerous Shelby
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