The majority of women at one point in time or other suffer from low self-confidence and low self-image. I’ve always been one of those. But, during college, I worked hard to love myself and my body. Then, I got pregnant. I won’t lie, I looked awesome and amazing pregnant. However, now that I’m not pregnant anymore, I miss my old body. I miss my old weight, my old shape, I miss not having the pudge I do now, I miss having a clear face, and I miss having my full head of hair rather than this continuous hair falling out.
Have a Gratitude List
Be An Example
Set Small Steps and Goals
Screen Your Messages
In our day it’s not uncommon to let your ringing phone go to voicemail if you don’t know the number. We want to avoid any social situations that we’re not comfortable being in. It’s harder to screen the messages we’re spent daily. Whether it’s your current workout buddy or the fitness Instagram account you follow, make sure the way the messages you get from those things impact you is positive. It’s nobody’s fault if it’s not. It doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you or the other person, but if you find yourself feeling down or bad about yourself–remove the cause. Once you’ve made some progress, see if you can add some of those things back in without receiving those negative messages. I think this is a very important process for all things–not just body image–and something we need to have an awareness of at all times.
Move Your Body
Do things that make you FEEL good. That includes exercise, but find exercise you like or enjoy. Since becoming a stay at home mom, I have had the awesome opportunity to make time daily for at least 30 minutes of time to sweat (as I like to call it) and time for movement throughout the day as I play with my daughter, dance with her, vacuum the floor, and go on walks. The mental clarity and overall better view of life has been a direct result of daily exercise. It’s so good for you–but it’s even better if you enjoy it. This will allow you to listen to your body and feel good in your body-which will in turn help you to appreciate and value your body. Actively valuing your body will naturally lead to a healthier lifestyle. Sometimes when we try to force things, it makes us feel badly about our bodies or it almost seems like punishment. No matter where you are in your health journey, please don’t punish yourself. Love yourself and you’ll see how quickly your body will start to love you back.
Find a Support System
This will look different for every person. Not only do you need to remove negative influences, but you want to incorporate positive ones. Whether that’s an online community, family members, friends, or even divine influence–make sure you let everyone know what your goal is and that they can help you. I have personally let my husband know what kind of support I need from him and what my goals are ultimately. I have to be extremely clear with him. I have also been working really hard on working through some of my bigger issues with my Heavenly Father. Some of the LDS conference talks this past weekend are going to be studied in depth as I do so-including this one.
I am talking about my conscious decision not to lose the weight right now on the blog today while I work on some things to improve my body image. I plan to tackle all of the things I shared her today in-depth and more in the future. I’d love it if you wanted to join the conversation!
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