“A dream is a wish your heart makes.” We all know the lyrics to the Cinderella song. To me, dreams and wishes are the same thing. I’m not talking about dreams we have when we are sleep. I’m talking about day dreams, dreams of what our lives will be like in the future. Dreams and wishes are nice things to think about. And, I agree with Britt of My Little Sunshines that dreams don’t have to be big or radical. These are some dreams and wishes I have:Wishes and dreams are synonymous. Click To Tweet
We had such an amazing Easter this year. Justin’s parents and sisters flew into town, so we decided to go down to Nephi to spend it with his brother’s family and everyone else.
We went down on Friday evening and Rhys immediately wanted to play with his cousins. He was a little leery of his Uncle Jason and Aunt Rachel, though. We enjoyed a good dinner together, and put Rhys to bed. Justin and I wen to bed pretty quickly after–we were exhausted. Sadly, Rhys is teething and didn’t sleep well at all. It also snowed that night! Grr!
The city of Nephi has a running tradition of Easter egg hunts at their local park every year. Nephi is a small town in Utah and almost the entire city (who Jason seems to know everyone) turns up. But, because it snowed, the Easter egg hunt took place in the local junior high’s gym.
Rhys mostly got smarties in his eggs, and he loved them! The rest of the day was spent eating cheese quesadillas, playing with toys, and taking naps. Then, Aunt Jenny, Aunt Jana, and Justin’s parents arrived. Even though Rhys spent a long week wit them at Christmas, he didn’t want to be anywhere near them for the longest time.
After dinner, the little kids decorated eggs. It was the first time Rhys decorated eggs, and he had so much fun!
After the eggs were done, we sent all the kids to bed, then got Easter baskets ready. Everyone was tired from traveling and the day’s activities, and we’d all have an early morning on Sunday, so we went to bed pretty early again, after talking a bit.
Sunday morning, the kids all had to search for their baskets and the eggs and treats hidden throughout the living room and TV room. Rhys had fun finding the eggs, but he was more excited about his musical PAW Patrol book the Easter bunny left for him.
We hurried and had a breakfast of creamed eggs on toast and bacon, then rushed to get everyone dressed for church…at 9 AM!
Church was stressful. Rhys had a hard time behaving in Sacrament Meeting, and screamed all throughout Nursery, even though Justin was there with him. But, Jason gave an amazing Sunday School lesson on pride and emnity. After church, the kids changed clothes, and then searched for Grams’ and Poppa’s money eggs in the backyard. After that, we had a bit more candy, then all the kids played outside in the nice weather (all the snow had melted by Saturday afternoon and it was in the mid-60’s on Sunday–crazy Utah weather!).
Dinner consisted of ham, asparagus (which I got Rhys to eat drenched in Ranch!), rolls, baked potatoes, and frog-eye salad. The entire family then watched Prince of Egypt. Afterward, we had desert of Razzleberry pie and icecream. Then, we packed up, Rhys gave everyone a goodbye kiss and hug, and we headed home to Farmington. My grandma and great-Aunt were there since they had Easter dinner with my family, so we got to visit with them before putting Rhys to bed. Then, after they left, my sister Madison and her boyfriend, Dallin, came and we all played a dominoes game called Mexican train.
It was a wonderful Easter.
I have written so many posts about being content and focusing on the little things. More than anyone else, I’ve written those posts for myself. Especially after having been diagnosed with PPD and Depression/Anxiety, But, even though it’s a weakness for me, I do find that when I reflect back and realize the value of and my love of the small things in life, I feel so much better. It is equivalent to keeping a continuous gratitude list.
Especially this past week, when I’ve focused on the small things life has gotten a little better and happier through the rivers of tears and clouds of melancholy.
* Rhys always makes me smile. He is so funny, and he knows it. He will do something silly, look at me and laugh, and wait for me to respond with laughs.
* Rhys has been super cuddly recently, and it’s been really nice, because they have been so therapeutic.
* We are trying to teach Rhys not to (playfully) hit the dogs, so we’ve been sending him to “timeout” (a specific chair in the house). When we tell him to go to time out, he’ll immediately go and sit down in that chair. Sometimes he’ll fuss and yell, but he won’t move off the chair. What a good, smart boy.
* The weather has been so nice, recently.
* Rhys and I went running earlier in the week, when it was super windy, but Rhys was just happy to be outside.
* Rhys has been loving playing in the backyard, and I love watching him.
* Justin left little notes that said, “I love you” for me last week when I was feeling down.
* Justin and I have been playing a lot of Mario 3-D World on the Wii-U together.
* When my new ward’s Relief Society presidency came to visit me, they talked about starting up a Mother’s Group…that was an answer to a prayer–I’m in desperate need of a mother’s group.
* Seeing the blue sky with no clouds!
* Finishing Hope Unfolding by Beck Thompson. It was exactly what I needed to hear, and I sent it to a friend who I know needs it as well.
* Getting really into the first 30 pages of a Tudor historical fiction novel.
Here are the other posts I’ve written about contentment and the little things:
Loving the little things that Rhys did his first year
Using the little thing to help overcome a monotonous life
Taking time away from the world to be content
Focusing on the small and making the most in life
2016 Mission Statement
What little things do you love?
It’s National Marriage Week–perfect timing since it’s right before Valentine’s Day. It’s such a great time to focus on trying to be more intentional in your marriage.
My motto for this year was to be intentional. I also had some intentional marriage goals this month. But, Justin and I have had some serious talks about being more intentional in our marriage in all aspects of our lives. We really want to bring out the best in each other and really tackle any obstacle and trial thrown at us strong and together.
Focusing more on the Gospel in our Marriage
Christ is at the center of our marriage. We want to do better at recognizing and highlighting that. We are going to make a huge effort to read scriptures together every day, as well as do our own personal scripture study. We are also going to make a huge effort to go to Church every Sunday for all three hours and not use “not feeling well” as an excuse. We believe that as we come closer to Christ, we will come closer to each other.
Communicate Far More Often in our Marriage
This is our biggest weakness. We both want the best for each other, but we don’t want to nitpick. Because of that, we sometimes never bring things that we need to up. Feelings fester and we sometimes we get cold and distant. We want to be open books to each other from now on.
Spend Time Together Without Electronics
My weakness is social media. Justin’s is video games. A typical night is putting Rhys to bed, then watching Hulu/Netflix while I blog and Justin looks at sports stats or plays videogames. We want to spend intentional time with each other–go on walks, just talk, play board games or videogames together, or watch a show with no distractions.
Focus on Health in our Marriage
Neither of us are happy where we are in health. If we feel better about ourselves, we can help each other improve as well. We are going to eat out less often, make better food choices, and be more active with each other and push each other.
Push Each Other in our Marriage
Marriage is supposed to be two people bring out the best in each other. We are too content with the way things are. Because of that, not only are we not improving ourselves, but we aren’t helping to improve each other. We are going to be verbally and actively involved and encouraging to each other.
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We have been extremely blessed. We are lucky to live with my parents in such a loving, supportive home, with ALL the special items like cookware, and Dish TV! After my post on the positives of moving back in with your parents, I thought it would be useful to list all the different conversations you and your spouse should have with your parents before actually moving in. It is very important to do so before you move in! It will save everyone a lot of heartache and arguments.
When to move in and out
It actually takes planning to decide when you will actually move in–you have to prepare to pack up and move out, rent a truck, cancel amenities, etc. Your parents need to make sure they have the resources and space available to help you out. But, you also need to coordinate, or at least have a plan, to move back out as well. We don’t know exactly when we are going to leave my parents’ house, but we have a ball park idea. This helps both parties plan and prepare for your stay.
What to take, what to store, and what to give away
You are moving into a small space–your entire house is not going to fit into a floor or a room. So, you will need to book a storage unit (preferably close to your parents’ house in case you need something). This is a perfect time to go through all of your stuff and declutter. Get rid of old and unused items, organize your files and important papers, give away opened or cold food. You will want to take as little as possible. We took our clothes, our video games, and Rhys’s toys. The rest of our house, including closed pantry food, is in our storage unit.
Rent and Amenities
You are extra bodies that take up space, need heating and cooing, water and electricity, and food. Talk ahead of time with your parents about what you should help out with–how much rent, if any, what amenities or grocery bills, etc. Now, my family doesn’t have a basement kitchen, so we’ve had a lot of discussion on food and meals, especially since my family works a lot later than Justin does. We have been very lucky on this point. Our rent is for Justin to be the math tutor for my sisters, and for me to not only be the English and history tutor, but also to watch the ENTIRE series of Downton Abbey (which my whole family is obsessed with and I have never seen a single episode). We are also giving my parents a flat check for groceries every month.
Duties and Position
You are not a guest. You are there long term. So, what chores will you help out with? What are your duties of the household? We will be keeping the basement clean, and since I will be the only one staying at home all day, I will help out with the dogs and keeping the main floor tidy. I will also be helping out with cooking. Justin and I will both be helping with driving, if need be, and Justin wants to help out with yard work.
What part of the house will you live in? For some, it will be one room, for others, an entire floor. For us, we have taken over the basement (one bedroom, one bathroom, and a family room). But, the kitchen is upstairs. So, you will need to discuss what is personal space and what isn’t. We have decided that everyone has free access to the entire house, but after a certain time at night, we all “retire to our corners.” This way, we still have a little haven, and my family doesn’t constantly feel like they have to entertain us.