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#LoveBlog2017 Day 1 | Valentine’s Day

You don't have to spend money on your spouse to enjoy Valentine's Day. Here are some easy ways to get the most out of the Day of Love with your significant other without spending money!

I’m super excited to help cohost #LoveBlog with Belle Brita again this year! This is a daily linkup during the month of February, talking about anything and everything having to do with love. Each day has it’s own topic and anyone is welcome to join! Today’s topic is on Valentine’s Day!

I am one of the lucky girl when it comes to Valentine’s Day. My birthday is on February 10, so birthday surprises and V-day surprises come nearly back to back. Justin really spoils me: I get a gift for my birthday (and chocolate), a special dinner and/or date in between, then a gift and chocolate for Valentine’s Day. He calls it Valentine’s Week. And poor Justin…he did such a great job our first year of marriage that he feels he has to live up to that every year!

This year, it’s going to be a little more casual (I hope), since we paid for plane tickets for me and the kids to be in Utah right now. I think the best Valentine’s Day gift I gave Justin were some bacon roses. He absolutely loved them! Continue Reading

Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.

3 Secrets to Successful Goal Setting as a Couple | Guest Post

3 secrets to successful goal setting as a couple. Goal setting with your significant other can strengthen your marriage.

Amberly has been a friend for years now. She runs a very successful blog that focuses on marriage, which is of the utmost importance to her–it’s what she got her degree in! Her blog has been inspiring to me to improve my own marriage and I love how she is able to come up with so many different topics on marriage for her blog. Today, she has gracefully agreed to take over the blog for me to talk about goal setting as a couple.


It’s a new year and with that comes goal setting and self improvement. Every year, I set goals to help me become the best me and the best wife that I can be. Some of my favorite goals to set however, are the ones that I set with my husband! Setting goals as a couple is just as important as setting goals for yourself and the goals that you set together will help you become a more solid couple. Goals help you work on the areas of your relationship that may not be as strong as some of the others. Whether you set goals together for the new year or as part of your anniversary traditions, these three tips will help set yourselves up for success when you do.

Communicate Openly

When you sit down to set goals together, you both have to be willing to share what is on your mind and be open to the things that your spouse has to say as well. Chances are, you will both have different ideas about what areas of your relationship are lacking and need improvement, but this is not the time to disagree. Discuss and write down all of the potential goals that you can set together and don’t say no to any of them too early on in the game.

Start Small

After you’ve got your list of potential goals put together, break the big goals down into smaller ones so that you’re not taking on too much at once. For example, if you decide together that you want to improve your finances and one of the things that you’ve decided to do is pay off all of your debt, focusing on the big picture can be a little overwhelming, but setting a goal to pay off a small, amount of that debt each month is achievable. If a goal seems too big, find a way to make it happen, one step at a time.

Reevaluate Often

Every month, I look at the goals that I set the month before and use my successes and failures with that goal to help me set the next month’s goal. You can do the same with the goals that you’ve set as a couple. You can sit down and look at your goals yearly, quarterly or monthly. Decide what’s working and what isn’t and use that to adjust the goals you have been working on and set new ones. Don’t give up on your goals if they aren’t working, find a way to make them work!

Have you set goals as a couple this year? What sort of goals did you set?
Amberly

Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.

How to Celebrate Your Anniversary When You Are Apart

You can still celebrate your anniversary even when you and your significant other are far apart!

I can’t believe it is already our anniversary–today, Justin and I have been married four whole years! And what a lot has happened in those four years: 4 different homes, 1.5 kids, 3 different adult/full-time jobs between the two of us, 1 layoff, 4 cities, 2 states, 1 car dying, 1 car bought, and countless adventures and good memories.

Sadly, this year we will be spending our anniversary apart due to Justin’s training out of state for his new job. This is the first year that’s happened. Thankfully, I’ll see him this weekend. However, we know we aren’t the only couple to spend their anniversary apart. It happens often, for many reasons.

You can still celebrate your anniversary even when you and your significant other are far apart!

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Use Technology

Thank goodness for today’s technology. Justin and I will be texting all day and we will be able to FaceTime each other tonight after Rhys goes to bed. With technology, I don’t feel so distant from Justin. Make sure that you send love notes via text all day. Compliment each other. Be romantic and sappy. It’s your anniversary, after all!

Send Each Other Gifts

This year, Justin and I both bought each other gifts online. I got my gift last weekend, and was able to play it (the GameCube game, Pikmin, that I’ve wanted for years) with Justin. His gift is currently on its way. Don’t let each other know what it is–that way, it’ll be a surprise when it arrives!

Continue Your Traditions

If you have a certain tradition that you do on your anniversary, try to do it, even miles apart. Watch the same movie together and text/FaceTime while watching it. Play an online game together. Read a book then call and discuss it. Both go to a park where you each are, catch a few Pokemon, and chat about it.

Brag Online

Write a gooey, romantic post on social media, bragging about your significant other and tag them in it. That way, they will be sure to see how much they mean to you, as well as all your friends.

Postpone Celebrating

If your significant other is coming home soon, you could just postpone celebrating your anniversary. Justin will be home on Friday, and we will be going out to eat then, and renting a movie to watch while cuddling after Rhys goes to bed.

Send Flowers

You can always send flowers! ProFlowers is one of the best ways to show your love for your significant other when you are apart. It is super easy–look at ProFlowers’s anniversary collection of fresh flower bouquets, choose your significant others’ favorite, chose the vase, and purchase. They send the flowers within 48 hours, in a long-lasting wet styrofoam to keep them alive until they get to you. The package comes with instructions and flower food. I got these roses on Saturday, and they are still beautiful, alive, and kicking!

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You can still celebrate your anniversary even when you and your significant other are far apart!

You can still celebrate your anniversary even when you and your significant other are far apart!

You can still celebrate your anniversary even when you and your significant other are far apart!

You can still celebrate your anniversary even when you and your significant other are far apart!

Some packages even include an option for some gourmet chocolate-covered strawberries from Sherrie’s Berries. The berries are sent separately, but arrived the same day as the flowers. They were kept cold in a cooler package. Justin and I were able to enjoy the strawberries together before he left on Sunday. They were succulent and juicy and delicious!

You can still celebrate your anniversary even when you and your significant other are far apart!

You can still celebrate your anniversary even when you and your significant other are far apart!

You can still celebrate your anniversary even when you and your significant other are far apart!

You can still celebrate your anniversary even when you and your significant other are far apart!

*I received the bouquet and strawberries from ProFlowers which inspired this post. All thoughts and opinions are my own.*

Here is how we celebrated our previous anniversaries:

Year 1 — Lessons Learned

Year 1 — Camping at Lake Yuba

Year 2 — Night Out

Year 3 — A weekend without Rhys

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Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.

How to Have an Inexpensive Wedding

Having an inexpensive wedding is easier than you think!

My little sister just got married yesterday. Memories of my wedding keep coming back to me lately. Maybe it’s because we had several similarities to our ceremony and reception. My mom had kept an organized binder of budgets, receipts, plans, etc from my wedding and has been pulling it out many times to get ideas on how to make my sister’s wedding inexpensive as well.

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Now, granted, weddings are more expensive they are today than they were in 2012 because of inflation. And, granted, Mormon weddings are less expensive because 1) we get married for free in an LDS Temple, 2) we don’t have cocktail hour or open bars because we don’t drink, and 3) we don’t have to pay a minister (they do it for free in the temples). But, we wanted to try to keep my wedding as frugal as possible for both my wedding and my sister’s wedding.

So, I have a few tips on how to help you have an inexpensive wedding as well! (All pictures are from my wedding as my sister’s wedding was just yesterday and we don’t have the professional pictures yet.)

Having an inexpensive wedding is easier than you think!

Go to Bridal Fairs

When you finally get engaged, jump on this bandwagon! Seriously! Photographers, invitation makers, dress stores, caterers, etc will all be there! You can window shop, grab information from everyone, and most likely, they will have discounts or sales for those who see them at the bridal fair! My sister Madison got quite the discount on her wedding dress because she talked to the boutique at a bridal fair!

Have the reception in a backyard

I knew I wanted an outdoor reception, and we didn’t want pay much for a venue. Luckily, an old family that we had known growing up had retired close to my college (yes, I got married in college–Mormon!). They had a beautiful backyard and were more than willing to let us use it for our reception. Cost: $0. (They also joked that it was a good excuse for them to update the garden and paint the porch.) Madison’s reception was in our backyard, so again, no money was spent on the venue!

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Go to discount bridal stores

My little sisters love watching Say Yes to the Dress. But, I just balk at the idea of spending sooooooooo much money on a wedding dress. Seriously? Do you need a $30k brand name dress that you are only going to wear less than 24 hours? In Utah, there are a ton of bridal stores. We went to all the ones having a sale. My dress was on discount, so we bought it. I also bought some ribbon with one of my wedding colors on it, and wanted some more lift in the skirt, so my mom and aunt sewed it up for me.  Cost: $500. Madison went to a small boutique. They were just beginning, so she got a good discount and exactly what she dreamed about in a dress!

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Do your own invitations

I spent hours trying to find a good company or business that would do my invitations, but it was always hundreds of dollars, and I wasn’t really in love with any of the designs. While at Michael’s, we found some adorable blank orange invitations. So, we formatted what we wanted it to say, then used my Uncle’s work printer to do a high quality job. We also printed an engagement photo at Costco to go along with it. Madison found someone who was trying to begin a wedding invitation business, so it cost close to nothing for her professionally designed invitations.

Use and abuse family talents

If you have family members who have talents that are wedding related, ask them to help you out for the wedding. Still pay them, but trust me, it’ll be much, much, much cheaper than getting professionals. My aunt was a wedding planner turned SAHM, so we “hired” her to decorate the reception for both me and my sister. We “hired” another uncle and aunt who love doing flowers for events and have a beautiful garden to do all the bouquets, boutonnieres, and table centers.  My mother-in-law and her sister grew up in a catering family, so they took care of the family luncheon for me. Our bishop’s wife made Madison’s cake. I designed her bridal shower invitations and all other handouts at the shower.

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Do your own primping and primming

Don’t go to a hair dresser and a nail salon. Find someone in your family who can primp and prim you well enough. Both Madison and I did our own makeup. Madison did my hair and she did her own. I did my own nails.  It was less stress for both of us because it was one less appointment for us to worry about.

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Don’t use a caterer

We just couldn’t believe how expensive catering was! Since my reception was in the evening, and had an outdoor English garden party theme to it, we wanted something light for refreshments. The family had already eaten at the luncheon. So, we bought Costco cheescake, fruit, lemonade, and “china-looking” plasticware. No one could tell the difference! We hired the daughter and friends of our family friends to be the waitresses and keep the tables clean and the food and drink stocked. Cost of food: $200, Cost of girls: $50 each. For Madison’s wedding, we did use a local bakery who gave us a bazillion cookies and eclairs. Many girls and women from our church congregation came and helped to keep the food stocked and clean up…all for free!

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Don’t use a bakery for the cake

There are so many talented bakers that make cakes from their home. Bakeries and companies overprice their cakes. But, if you find an individual (which there are so many of in Utah), it’ll be cheaper. Our cake was everything I wanted–simple, with my colors, and the flavor was very summery (pink lemonade cake with strawberry jelly filling and lemon frosting). Cost: $200. Madison’s cake was done by our Bishop’s wife, for free!

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Of course, Madison’s wedding was still more expensive than mine, but that’s because we got married 4 years apart, and over the years, everything is going to continue to cost more (especially in wedding concentrated Utah!). But, there are always ways to save money on your special day.

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How did you save money on your wedding?

Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.

Madison’s Bridal Shower

 

I’ve mentioned before that my sister, Madison, is getting married in mid-June. My baby sister (16 next week), is the maid of honor, and I am the matron of honor. So, we worked together to host her bridal shower. I decided to do all the graphic designs for the party and my sister was in charge of the rest.

I wanted really badly to create the invites, and I am so proud of how they turned out. I’ll be honest, I definitely fished for compliments from everyone. (The address and the phone number aren’t real on this copy.)

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We decided to play a few games. The first one wasn’t really a game, but more of a keepsake for Madison and Dallin. We had little handouts that asked the guests to predict their future.

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Also, shameless plug…if you want me to do any invites or prints for you, please send an email to themorrelltale@gmail.com with the subject line: graphic design! 

Another game we played was the Shoe Game. Bride and Groom have one shoe from each other. They sit back to back and are asked a question…”who is…” then they hold up the shoe representing their answer. For example…”who was the first one to mention marriage?” Then, they would hold a shoe with who they think mentioned marriage first. It was very funny to see their answers…and we teased them a bunch.

The last game was “Guess the Romantic Movie”. We chose 10 of very popular romantic movies, whited out the titles, and inserted Madison and Dallin’s faces. Whoever guessed the most correctly won a prize.

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We had the bridal shower at our Aunt and Uncle’s community club house. We served crepes, which was a big hit (especially with Rhys who wanted strawberries, bananas, chocolate, and whipped cream on his–a son after my own heart!). We met Dallin’s family and enjoyed the evening. They got a lot of good gifts, including a hand-made quilt from my mom. She had made one for Justin and I and decided that she wanted to make it a tradition for all of her kids.

I decided to play with the Creative setting on my camera, rather than use one of the preset ones…so I decided not to put any of the pictures in a photo editor to see how they came out. I love most of them! Also, I apologize that some of the pictures are lopsided…I tried to edit the originals on my dashboard and saved them, and in my media library, they are the correct way up, but they aren’t here…I can’t figure it out. Sorry!

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Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.