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The Transition to Two Kids

Lessons I Have Learned In the Transition to Two Kids

I am almost three months into the transition to being a mom of two kids. I have two under three. There are many, many times I think and wonder to myself and out loud, “What were we thinking having them this close apart?” But, most often, I’m glad that Rhys and Evelyn are closer in age (by four months) than me and my little sister.

I will be completely honest. I have absolutely loved these past three months. I have learned so much about myself and my little children. But, I have also had an extremely difficult time transitioning as well. Part of it has to do with missing my family and the support I got in Utah. Another part was suffering some postpartum depression. But, the biggest was the stress and anxiety with Evelyn’s bowel movement issues.

However, I would never take back these three months. I don’t regret them. They have changed me, and I hope for the better. Continue Reading

Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.

How Evelyn’s Trouble with Bowel Movements Taught Me About the Atonement

You don't really understand how much God loved His children to give His only Begotten Son up, nor do you realize how much Christ loved us to take upon Himself all the sins the pain of the world, until you become a parent. Especially a parent whose newborn daughter can't pass bowel movements by herself.

As you know, I only breastfed Evelyn for four days. I felt completely at peace with that decision, as did Justin. It was best for our family situation to have Evelyn drink from a bottle and to save me from the pain and stress of nursing. However, there have been numerous days these past two and a half months that I have thought I made a terrible mistake. Especially when it came to Evelyn’s bowel movements.

See, the problem is that Evelyn can’t poop by herself.

Ever wonder why Christ would take upon Himself all the sins and pain of the world? Try having a daughter who can't poop by herself and you'll understand! Continue Reading

Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.

Evelyn | Two Months

Evelyn is two months old: she is a master at rolling over, loves cooing and talking to everyone, drinks bottles like a champ, and much more!

Dear Evelyn,

It seems like you have been part of our family for much longer than two months. We have started to fall into a pretty good routine, although I am still struggling a bit to balance freelancing, blogging, and spending time with you and Rhys. We have started to figure out your cries and your needs. You have definitely started to show your personality quite a bit. We are so excited to see you growing and learning.

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Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.

Evelyn is One Month

Dear Evelyn Morgan,

It seems just a few days ago that Christmas was here and you were newborn. But, you are already a month old! This month has been a trying one for me. Not only have I been suffering from PPD and anxiety and learning to transition to two kids, but you have had issues of your own. The biggest one is your sensitive tummy and poor digestive system. You have been constipated so many times this month and you strain and strain to pass a bowel movement. Most of the time, it’s not as loose as it should be and it has given you a few tears. It also messes with your sleep. This has given me so much stress because I hate seeing you suffer.

Other than that, you are an amazing girl. You are bright eyed and alert and so very strong. And, I am in love with how much hair you have–and the fact that it’s auburn like mine! We love you so much!

Weight: 8 lbs 3.5 ounces (birth: 7lbs 5oz)

Height: 22.5 inches (birth: 20.25 inches)

Nicknames: Baby Girl, Little One, Little Miss

Eating| I nursed you for four days, then switched to formula. You take Gerber Soothe with Probiotics with a teaspoon of Gripe Water mixed in it. You drink about 2 ounces at a time. Sometimes, you’ll only drink 1 ounce, and sometimes, you want 3. As much as I would love to put you on a 3 hour eat-wake-sleep schedule like Rhys was at this age, that hasn’t happened. You eat anywhere between every hour and a half to three and a half hours. Typically, it’s around 2.5 hours between feedings. You stare up at me almost the whole time you drink. It’s very obvious when you are done–you basically shove the bottle out of your mouth. We have give you some prune juice a few times to help with your constipation issues.

Sleep| Nighttime: You typically have a bottle around 8pm (the same time we put Rhys down to bed) and you typically sleep until 10-11:30ish. Sometimes, we’ll stay up until then to feed you, sometimes, we’ll just go to sleep until you wake us up. Then, you’ll go right back to sleep and wake up between 1-3AM. Right back asleep and back up between 4-6AM. So you are a lot more sporadic then your brother was at this age, but I’m trying to go with the flow and be more flexible with you because your stomach kind of requires that. You sleep in your swing since you never stay asleep on your back. Most times, after your early morning feeding, I’ll bring you into bed with me.

Daytime: You typically wake up between 7:30 and 8. If Rhys wakes up before then, which typically happens, he’ll come into bed with us and watch Nick Jr while we keep our eyes closed a little longer. You don’t sleep very well in the morning…a sporadic short nap here or there. Then, after you noon-ish feeding, you’ll sleep for a few hours, which allows Rhys to have a nap at his regular time and I can close my eyes too! Thank you! In the late afternoon and evening, you do much better at sleeping for naps. You smile so large in your sleep that it takes up half your face. You also giggle a lot in your sleep too. We wonder what you are dreaming about. A lot of times, during the day and the night, you will struggle and strain and push in your sleep for 30-60 minutes before you wake, trying to get a poo out. I hate seeing your sleep disrupted like that. You also love to sleep in the Moby wrap. Sometimes, we’ll let you nap on your tummy as you can already lift and turn your head very easily and it seems to comfort you more.

Milestones and Learning| Tummy Time: We do tummy time every day, typically in the morning. You can lift your head up 90* already and consistently! And, we cannot even believe it: you are rolling over already! You’ve been rolling over since 2.5 weeks!

Focusing and Tracking: You can track very easily. You love following our faces around and different toys. When I’m on my phone and you are in front of me, you stare transfixed at the LDS Temple cover I have on it. When we FaceTime Grandma, you love looking at her, and have actually given her a smile!

Communication: Once or twice you have given us an intentional smile. You have also started to coo–it’s adorable and Rhys loves it.

Arms and Legs: You can very easily bring your hand together. You love holding my hand or the bottle as I feed you. Your hands have also found their way to your mouth quite a few times.

Personality| When your tummy isn’t bugging you, and you’ve had enough sleep, you are the calmest, most inquisitive little girl. But, when you have trapped gas or haven’t had a bowel movement or are tired because you haven’t slept due to those issues, you are fussy.

Likes: 

  • showers with me and baths in the sink
  • getting your hair brushed
  • being held
  • being in the Molly wrap
  • eating

Dislikes:

  • getting changed
  • being hungry–you scream and growl until we get you a bottle
  • having gas or being constipated
  • your carseat–seriously, I can’t really go anywhere with you!
  • being put down if you aren’t asleep

You have already met your grandparents and aunts on my side of the family. They flew in from Utah for the New Year. You had so much attention the first week of your life. We are going to fly to Utah this Friday, and I’m a little nervous about flying with your fussiness and digestion issues!

Your bowel movements have gotten better. You typically pass at least one big and one small stool a day. They are getting looser and more towards the correct, average color and texture. I am a huge believer in probiotics and Essential Oils, which we have been using on your tummy to help digestion and your feet to help soothe you. Baby acne plagues your cheeks, chin, and neck, so we’ve been using special lotion to help it. Hopefully it’ll go away soon and hopefully it doesn’t mean you’ll be a pizza face like your Mama was as a teenager.

I love you so much. I am so happy to have a daughter. I look into your eyes and I can’t wait to find out more about your personality.

Love,

Mama and Daddy

 

Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.

Dealing with a Speech Delay

Even if your child is advanced in everything else, they could still have a delay

It’s really hard when you have a brilliant son in every way possible, but everyone else his age speaks circles around him. Rhys has a speech delay. It’s frustrating for Justin and I and it’s also frustrating for Rhys.

Even if your child is advanced in everything else, they could still have a delay

The absolute worst is at night, he constantly asks for “A da da.” For months, we have wracked our brains with what that could possibly mean, even recruiting my mother for her ideas. “Door open,” “I don’t want to,” “Daddy,” “door open,” “attention,” we have no idea. We’ve asked him to show us, and he just stands still and says it more.

Rhys has plenty of words; his vocabulary expands every day. But, he really suffers with pronunciation. The most prevalent example is when he asks us to go to his room: “ee oom” (Rhys room). Sometimes, he doesn’t even get the “m” on room.

He is two and half and has started to get frustrated when we can’t understand him. Especially because he will be starting preschool in the fall and now has a baby sister who can only coo and cry, we definitely wanted to work on his speech. So, we called Early Childhood Intervention to see if we could qualify for speech therapy through the state.

A speech therapist came to evaluate Rhys, not only in speech, but also in other aspects of his growth and development to see if it was a compounded problem. This happened in early December, when he was barely 29 months old. Most thing: gross and fine motor skills, social development, comprehension and communication, and other knowledge based things, Rhys was scoring between 30 and 36 months–he was advanced.

I knew that already. I mean, if you look back at all his monthly updates, he was always ahead of the curve when it came to milestones. But, we wanted to figure out the issue with the speech delay. Tongue tied and lip tied was ruled out (that was taken care of the day he was born), he didn’t have a chewing/swallowing issue (which sometimes affects speech), his hearing and his vision was fine.

I described to the therapists that I called him “speech dyslexic.” He was mixing up some sounds. For example, instead of saying “bye bye”, he’d say “dye dye.” He uses a lot of “g”s for other sounds too. He can get his guttural sounds very easy but his nasal and his aspirate sounds are lacking, the therapists explained. That made complete sense to me because of how the Welsh language is set up with mutations of certain sounds (I’m not going to explain it since it’s a large grammar lesson, but you can read about it here).

Sadly, he scored barely above the bar for qualifying for speech. The therapists looked back over their test results and tried to see what they could skew in Rhys’s favor to qualify him. They said they really felt that he would truly benefit from speech therapy. But, ethically, they didn’t feel that they could risk their licenses to skew it in his favor. So, they gave me their information, a packet on how to help Rhys with phonics, and told us to look at private therapists through our insurance. They left repeating that Rhys’s case is the one they will feel most bad about the entire year.

So, for now, we are trying to really help Rhys with pronunciation. Really, that is where he is failing. Daily, he gains new words (he just can’t properly say them). He knows songs and tunes and will “sing” along with them. He “reads along” when we read books. We make him use his words. We try not to use “yes or no” questions. When he watches TV, I ask him questions as to what is going on, who is who, what color they are wearing, etc. He plays along with Nick Jr shows, answering how many balls there are, or which road is longer, or that’s the triangle, etc. He truly is brilliant. Rhys knows all the numbers 0-10 and can count forward and backwards (just not pronouncing them correctly). He knows all the basic shapes and every color. He can identify the different letters of the alphabet (and can correctly pronounce most of them).

And, he is willing to try to practice his speech. We’ll work on specific sounds in each syllable, then try to get them to connect….but it doesn’t always work…..

Me: Baby

Rhys: geegee

Me: ba ba ba ba

Rhys: babababa

Me: be be be be

Rhys: dee dee dee

Me: ba bee

Rhys: ba dee

Me: ba bee

Rhys: ba gee

Me: baby

Rhys: geegee

For some reason, he can do the separate, individual sounds, but he can’t put them together. But, I have confidence that he will continue to learn and grow. I am a little worried about him being able to properly speak when he starts preschool in the fall–he’ll be little over 3. But, if his speech is still suffering, we’ll test him again at age 3 and see if we can get support through the school system.

As for now, I’m trying my hardest not to compare him to other kids his age. But, the hardest is I have two good friends who had daughters within a week of Rhys. Both girls can pronounce words correctly and speak full, long sentences. It does kill me a little inside to see that….and then when I watch Instastories or SnapChat and see my kids’ friends who are younger than Rhys speak better than him, it hits hard at home again.

But, I know it’s not my fault and it’s not Rhys’s fault. Rhys is just as smart (if not possibly smarter…I’m not bragging or biased at all!) than they are. He just has a weakness in speech. And, I am so glad that my friend, Susannah’s little boy, who is a few months younger than Rhys is having the exact same issue. It does make me feel better.

So, we’ll see what happens in the next few months.

Did your child have a speech delay? Did they qualify for speech therapy? What did you do to help your child to speak correctly?

Tayler from The Morrell Tale.com

Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.