Don’t Grow Up Too Fast

As a child, all I wanted to do was to grow up. I had so many plans for my life: college, teaching, becoming a famous author, being a mom, traveling the world, having a movie made based off either my novels or my time as a teacher, become a professor, be on a History channel documentary. I was excited to move out of my parents’ house (how ironic that I’m back in my parents’ house!), to be on my own, to be in charge of my own life. Even though Disney’s Tangled didn’t come out until I was in college, I always echoed the lyric, “When will my life begin.” Well, I was in such a hurry to begin my life that I forgot to live my life.

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Don't grow up too fast. Enjoy your age.

Although I am proud of my accomplishments as a teenager and a college student, sometimes I wonder if I grew up too fast. I focused more on my studies and writing and reading than anything else. Now, that wasn’t a bad thing. I still played sports, I still hung with friends. But, I didn’t take time to stop and smell the roses. I never really embraced the philosophy of Carpe Diem. I also got married very early. Again, that’s not a bad thing. I was 22, finished with college, and ready to be a wife. We’ve had plenty of adventures together as a couple, and spent many hours playing video games with each other.

However, there are sometimes I reminisce about my childhood. Sometimes I miss being a child. Adulting is hard! I yearn for the days of ease, the days of discovery, the days of learning, the days of only being in charge of myself. I love being a mother, I love being a wife, I loved being a teacher. But, sometimes I don’t want to deal with the stress.

Then, I look at my almost-16-year-old sister. She is so stressed about having a 4.o to get into the college of her dreams. She comes straight home from school (which she spends an hour at after for tutoring), and immediately begins on her homework for hours, then practices her flute. Yet, she still spends time with her friends. She still embraces her youth. She goes shopping with them, plans parties with them. Has Gilmore Girls or Downton Abbey marathons with the family. Bakes gourmet desserts on the side. She is my idol. She is still coocky and weird. She dances silly in front of the family and speaks a weird made up language (Er Mer Gerd).

Then, I look at my 20 (almost 21!) month old son. He is growing up right before my eyes. This toddler stage is my absolute favorite stage. It’s so fun. I am in awe as I watch him learn and discover. I want so badly for him to grow up and talk to me. I want so badly for him to grow up and go to school. To learn, to discover, to play, to love, to live. But, I miss my little baby boy that he no longer is. He already is growing up too fast.

I guess what I’m trying to get at is to slow down in your life. Enjoy your current stage. Don’t be in rush be in a rush to begin a new chapter. It’ll come when it comes. That is one of my goals this year: bloom where I am planted–that not only means where I am physically, but also in life. Enjoy this season. Get the most out of it. I am only 26. I only have one child. I have no job to worry about right now (intentionally). I don’t need to grow up quickly right now.

 

Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.
  • Caitlin

    I can relate to this point in so many different ways. Sometimes I stop and think about how I am actually 30 and not 20 anymore. I do still feel like a kid – especially when I am with my parents or my inlaws – but then something happens with my daughter that will remind me I am a Mom too. Life goes too fast – but the best thing we can do is always slow down to smell the roses. =0)

    • It’s so interesting to watch ourselves grow up because we tend to feel younger than we actually are.

  • I think all of us can use this reminder from time to time! We are always looking ahead to the next “event” in our lives that we forget to live the life that is happening all around us. We need to stop wishing time away.

    • Exactly! We need to live in the present not in the future!

  • Adulting is so hard. My childhood was not terrible and was pretty full of fun and living. But it really is too bad that kids don’t understand how good they have it. That they’re always looking forward to whatever is next instead of enjoying the moment. I wish I had understood that when I was a kid.

    • Exactly! I loved my childhood, but especially now having been a teacher and seeing the kids of today, I feel that I even rushed to grow up.

  • I so, so love this! I was also someone who matured quickly and married young…but at the same time, I want to hold onto the carefree nature of youth whenever I can, and encourage the children and teens I care about to relish that season of life, too!

    • My mom was married around your age, too, and my dad is 7 years older than she. They joke that y dad had to “raise himself up a wife.”

  • Desiree @ Macke Monologues

    LOVE.
    Growing up I remember always wishing I was at the next phase of life. Ready for high school. Ready for college. Ready for a job. Ready to get married. And now, I just want to rewind and do all those things over again.
    It’s so funny you mention wanting Rhys to grow up. I remember the same with Marcus. And Scott would say, don’t rush it! And, tonight as I put Marcus to bed – as a FOUR YEAR OLD – I cried my eyes out. It all goes by in a blink.

    • You said it exactly right!