For a year, I have wanted to write this post. But, time and inspiration always seemed to get the better of me. However, now that I’m in a new place and a new chapter of life, it seems like the perfect time to revisit this idea. A year ago, Britt of My Little Sunshines, wrote a post entitled, “When Your Dreams Are Small.”
In that post, she talked about how there is a trend going on, especially in social mdia, and especially with the #girlboss push, to chase after big and lofty dreams–saying they are achievable and the only acceptable type of dream to reach for. However, Britt really only had small dreams in comparison: have a healthy marriage to a loving husband, be a mother, and own a house.
It really struck me. I love Britt and one of the reasons I do is how humble and complacent she is. I definitely know that being content is a huge weakness of mine–it is why it’s part of my 2016 mission statement.
I feel that I have had lofty dreams in my life: I wanted to travel Europe more, even live there maybe. I wanted to be a nationwide famous fantasy author. I wanted to be one of the history specialists the History Channel uses in one of their documentaries of medieval history. I wanted to be such an inspirational teacher that I could be on par of those in the movies!
However, now that I’m growing up more, I’m starting to rethink my dreams. And, they aren’t really that big. But, they are achievable.
Now, many people, especially the #girlbosses, would say that I am giving up to easily. That all dreams are achievable with hard work and determination. And I believe that to be true. However, I know where my priorities are: my family and my religion. Many would say, “but you need to be your first priority.” No. God is my first priority, and through that, I am. My family completes me, so I still am my first priority.
My dreams now are still “big”, but not lofty. I mean, it would still be great if any of my lofty dreams came true, and I’m never going to give up on them, but I am starting to be a little smarter with my dreams.
- I want to be a proud Mama who teaches her children both spiritually and academically.
- I want to be the wife that my husband is proud to brag about.
- I want to be a home owner by the time I am 30 (I have 3.5 more years!!).
- I want to get a graduate degree.
- I want to become a history professor sometime in my life.
- I want to grow my blogging/virtual assisting/blog design/freelancing to the point where it can be a supplementary business…bring in a few hundred bucks a month.
These are big dreams in the sense that they are very important, life achievements. They are worth working towards. If I achieve only these, I will consider myself successful in life. I will be content.