Dreams Don’t Have To Be Big

Dreams don't have to be big--they just have to be important to you.

For a year, I have wanted to write this post. But, time and inspiration always seemed to get the better of me. However, now that I’m in a new place and a new chapter of life, it seems like the perfect time to revisit this idea. A year ago, Britt of My Little Sunshines, wrote a post entitled, “When Your Dreams Are Small.”

In that post, she talked about how there is a trend going on, especially in social mdia, and especially with the #girlboss push, to chase after big and lofty dreams–saying they are achievable and the only acceptable type of dream to reach for. However, Britt really only had small dreams in comparison: have a healthy marriage to a loving husband, be a mother, and own a house.

Dreams don't have to be big--they just have to be important to you.

It really struck me. I love Britt and one of the reasons I do is how humble and complacent she is. I definitely know that being content is a huge weakness of mine–it is why it’s part of my 2016 mission statement.

I feel that I have had lofty dreams in my life: I wanted to travel Europe more, even live there maybe. I wanted to be a nationwide famous fantasy author. I wanted to be one of the history specialists the History Channel uses in one of their documentaries of medieval history. I wanted to be such an inspirational teacher that I could be on par of those in the movies!

However, now that I’m growing up more, I’m starting to rethink my dreams. And, they aren’t really that big. But, they are achievable.

Now, many people, especially the #girlbosses, would say that I am giving up to easily. That all dreams are achievable with hard work and determination. And I believe that to be true. However, I know where my priorities are: my family and my religion. Many would say, “but you need to be your first priority.” No. God is my first priority, and through that, I am. My family completes me, so I still am my first priority.

My dreams now are still “big”, but not lofty. I mean, it would still be great if any of my lofty dreams came true, and I’m never going to give up on them, but I am starting to be a little smarter with my dreams.

  1. I want to be a proud Mama who teaches her children both spiritually and academically.
  2. I want to be the wife that my husband is proud to brag about.
  3. I want to be a home owner by the time I am 30 (I have 3.5 more years!!).
  4. I want to get a graduate degree.
  5. I want to become a history professor sometime in my life.
  6. I want to grow my blogging/virtual assisting/blog design/freelancing to the point where it can be a supplementary business…bring in a few hundred bucks a month.

These are big dreams in the sense that they are very important, life achievements. They are worth working towards. If I achieve only these, I will consider myself successful in life. I will be content.

Tayler from The Morrell Tale.com

Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.

  • I love this! As we grow older and our circumstances change, we tend to be down on ourselves for not accomplishing our dreams…but what we don’t realize is that our dreams changed long ago!

    • I think you just summarized both our posts in a nutshell!

  • I read the title of this post and thought, oh, that reminds me of the post I wrote last year. Ha! Thanks for referencing back to my post. You are so sweet! I love this post, obviously, and I love your goals! I think as long as we are working towards goals, no matter how big or small, we are working on better ourselves, and that is something to be proud of!

    • Haha! I’ve been wanting to write it since you wrote yours a whole year ago! And I agree–as long as we are working on something to better ourselves, we should be proud.

  • Absolutely–dreams don’t have to be big. I was told by a college professor once “You don’t seem very ambitious.” And in some ways…that’s very true. I’m quite content, whether I achieve success by the world’s standards or not.

    • A professor really told you that?!?! I would never have told any of my students that (even if I thought it). I think you are very successful…you’ve done a lot that most people won’t achieve!

  • Desiree @ Macke Monologues

    YES!! Dreams don’t have to be big to be important!

    • Exactly. That’s what really caught me in Britt’s post!

  • Girl, you just took the words out of my mouth! There are times when I see these #GirlBoss things on the internet and I think that I need to find and accomplish some big dreams. Because that’s they only way to better yourself, right? Reach for the stars. So I sit down to write out some dreams and make some goals and I’ve got nothing. I’m fine just where I am. I am happy with the way my life is going. I don’t need all the big, lofty, crazy dreams. Yeah that would be cool, but I don’t need it. I can work just as hard and better myself just as much by working toward “small dreams” very similar to yours!

    • I think the #girlboss movement has gotten a little out of hand.

  • Laura Romberger

    So beautiful, I think we have many types of dreams…dreams for life, dreams for adventure, dreams for love, grand dreams, and small wishes.