What do you consider yourself: an extrovert or an introvert?
Growing up, I considered myself an extrovert. My mom used to say that I could make friends very easily. And I did. I also was very outspoken about my opinions, and always had a say at school. I was also involved in many sports and activities.
But, something happened when I went to college. I became quieter. I started listening and watching more rather than being an active participant. I would follow my roommates, rather than create and host event myself. I wouldn’t jump into the foray. That is, until I got to know people well enough.
With my roommates, I was wild and crazy, and all of us never shut up. But, when it came to a big party, I tended to stay in a corner. But, then, again, in class, I was willing to actively participate in not only class discussion, but group discussions as well. I even became an EFY counselor, and they are known for being wild and crazy. I was!
It’s so interesting the dichotomy. I have no problem whatsoever getting up in front of a classroom and teaching (as well as being kooky while doing it) or giving a spiritual talk or lesson at church. I have no problem taking the lead on group projects. And, obviously, I have no problem with putting myself out there on the internet. But, when I go to blogger meetups, I tend to be quiet and make myself oblivious. When Justin and I go to parties, I tend to cling onto him, and let him take the socializing reigns.
I love being with other people, but I hate big crowds–it makes me a little nervous. I love talking with others and having a grand ol’ time, but I hate initiating conversations. So, I tend to call myself an extroverted introvert.
But, one of my goals this year, to be more intentional is to try to initiate conversations, participate more in church discussions, be more open and friendly rather than try not to bring attention to myself. I want to become an extroverted extrovert. I also want to put my phone away when I’m with people…because I’m an introvert, I tend to turn to my phone as an “escape”. But, I want to be more present and involved.
<cebterWhat do you consider yourself? How do you handle yourself in a small group of friends vs a new larger group of people?