How Blogging Makes Me Brave

I’m pretty much an introvert. If you throw me into a crowd, I’ll be the quiet one, trying not to get in anyone’s way. If I go to a party, I’m typically the one doing all the listening and none of the talking. Even at dinner parties and family gatherings, I’m not one to talk unless asked a question. Aside from playing sports, I’m not a group person that much. I’d rather read or hang out with my family than go to a party or an event.

However, blogging has started to change me in the past three years.

It has started to make me brave.

I used to be an introvert. But slowly and surely, blogging is helping me to get out of my shell.

Group/Sponsored Events
When I first started blogging and going to group events or blogger parties, I was scared to death. I didn’t know anyone, I had a minuscule blog compared to most who were going, I didn’t fit in with trendy clothes, the latest iPhones, notebooks, or DSLRS. Everyone seemed to know each other and were having the time of their life staging photos. But, now, I try to take a plus 1 (either another blogger friend, or my husband). I’m not afraid to stage photos, because, hey, everyone else is doing it. And, I’m able to converse in some light chitchat with other bloggers.

Asking For Products
I used to wonder how lucky the bigger bloggers were to get so many free products to review and giveaway. I didn’t feel worthy of any product review since I was such a small blogger, so whenever I had the chance, I was beyond grateful for the opportunity. Last year, Provo started doing a food truck round up. There were tons of new food trucks, and it was both hipster and blogger mecca. I decided to home make some business cards because I’ve heard stories of presenting yourself as a blogger with a business card and getting some free products/food in exchange for a review. Well, at each food truck that we purchased something at, I handed them a card and hoped for some free addition. That didn’t happen, but it took a lot of gut to present myself. I’ve also done that once or twice on etsy, but my mistake was doing it around the holidays. I had a few Etsy owners say they’d love for me to do a review, but didn’t have any extra product to handout for free, but instead offered me a discount. I’m going to be working on a media kit in the next few weeks and put myself out there again. Even though I’m still quite the tiny blogger, I feel it’s a matter of presentation and confidence to get product for reviews.

Photos
I used to hate getting pictures of myself. I don’t believe that I’m photogenic and I just always look and feel awkward…getting our engagement photos done was murder for both of us! Fashion bloggers are always outside posing like models in public places. I’ve wanted to do a few fashion posts, too. But, being outside in front of my housing complex, with a tripod (and now an infant in a stroller), taking pictures of myself while cars and people pass by, is still embarrassing, but not as much as it used to be. I used to pretend like I was fixing my camera whenever someone came near. Now, I just grin, bear it, and wave.

Bigger Bloggers and Collaborations/Hosting Events
Bigger bloggers used to intimidate me. I felt unworthy in their presence. I remember last year, two of my favorite bloggers were pregnant and due at the same time as me. All three of us were teachers as well. So, I gathered up courage to ask them if they wanted to do a collaboration of our decision of staying a working mom or SAHM. I was sure they’d reject the idea, but they were both really into it! After going to a Scentsy party for one of my bigger blogger friends, I was thrilled to death when she asked if I wanted to host one for her. I now have quite a few bigger blogger friends with babies or toddler or are pregnant, so I decided to organize a baby play date. They were all wanting to come, but as plans rolled out, only half were able to make it, but it made me feel so good that they wanted to come in the first place!

Blogger Roundtable/Meetings
I love meeting other bloggers and getting tips and suggestions on how to improve my blogging. There are a lot of bigger bloggers with 1000s of followers, medium sized bloggers with 500+ followers, then there is me with 160-250ish on any given platform. I used to feel unworthy to add to the discussion–who would listen to someone who can’t seem to grow their blog big? However, I’ve been blogging for 6 years now am an avid blog reader and writer. I feel that I do know some know-how. On Saturday, I went to one of these. There were only four of us, and I knew all of them. Two were 1000+ followers, one with almost 1000. And me. But, I was able to explain how to use Latergramme on the laptop to them and something about Disquis. It made me feel so good. And the fact that they listened to me and made me feel just like them made me very confident.

Friendships and Confidence
Once I left Virginia after I graduated high school in 2008, something changed in me and it was harder to make and develop deep friendships. But, blogging has helped me through that. Yes, many of my friends are “online friends” who I probably will never meet in real life. But, we know every detail of each other’s lives, as if we’d been friends for years. And, some bloggers I have considered long-distance friends for years. Many bloggers here in Utah I’ve met in real life, exchanged phone numbers with, and talk with a lot. I love blogging for this very reason. I don’t and won’t feel alone. Next year, when I’m a full-time SAHM, I can just go online and hang out with friends, or I can call up one of my local blogger friends and go get brunch or have a playdate with them and their kids.

I feel better about myself because I am a blogger. I feel loved because I am a blogger. I feel like I go out of my box because I am a blogger. I feel confident because I am a blogger. I feel brave because I am a blogger.

How has blogging made you brave?

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Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.
  • Aw, I loved this! I've been amazed how blogging has changed my confidence (particularly about sharing my faith, which I still struggle about, but am slowly getting better at). I love how you are super honest about where you are at with a blogger and how the positive reinforcement helps you move forward ๐Ÿ˜€

  • I feel the same way you do! I've always been an introvert, shy at gatherings (even with my family!), and not very confidant. I started blogging just a few months ago and it has helped me feel more confidant, I'm able to present myself instead of hide in the background, and I've loved the support from online blogging friends I've made. I went to the Scpapbook expo this past weekend with my homemade blogger cards and actually took the initiative to introduce myself to representatives from companies. That would NEVER have happened before I started blogging.

  • I still feel awkward taking photos in public sometimes. It's a hard to overcome – but then I just have to remind myself how much I love doing blog posts and laugh about it later. I'm an introvert naturally, and have gone to a few blogging conferences and I do find them a bit overwhelming, but fun!

  • I totally agree with this. I think it's forced me to get out there and embrace what I love about life. I still get shy about lugging the huge camera around, but I am getting more confident.

  • I love this, Tayler. It's amazing how blogging has changed all of us, and mostly for the better. ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Blogging has made me brave too, I love your thoughts! I think many of us are introverts. I get so shy when I think of actually meeting another blogger in person, but I just need to do it! I'd like to reach out to companies for reviews too, but never have… I mostly get contacted about books, but I'm not complaining ๐Ÿ˜‰

  • It's definitely hard taking pictures, but at least you have Sam to help you out! I just have an 8 month old and a tripod (my husband works fulltime)

  • If I'm using the camera to take pictures of myself, I am embarrassed, but not if I'm taking pictures of other things…I think using DSLRs are becoming more common.

  • I definitely agree, Karen!

  • It's so weird how many bloggers are introverts that wish they were extroverts!

  • Gah, I just decided to stop being part of the mainstream blogging world, but your post makes me want to give it another go! It's funny, I'm an even balance between extrovert/introvert in real life, but I'm a total introvert when I'm interacting with people online. Absolutely freaks me out… so much stress. Weird how that works out!

  • That's awesome that you've been able to see yourself growing throughout your blogging journey! I know that I'm still very weak on the collaboration side of blogging–joining a group google hangout (like you saw me in once) is pretty nervewracking for me.

  • Having a baby gets prioritised over blogging ๐Ÿ™‚ Sam and I both work full time, so I try to do most of my blogging on weekends. Anything that I need help with, like a tricky outfit post, I ply him with sweets to give up some time on the weekend to help me. Obviously, that's tricky for you guys because then who would watch your little guy!

  • Well, I actually wrote a post called "unbranding your blog". You might like it as well! http://www.themorrelltale.com/2015/01/un-branding-blog.html

  • It was pretty nervewracking for me, too! Remember all those awkward pauses us four had!

  • Blogging definitely pulls you out of your shell if you want to be even kind of good at it. <3

  • Desiree @ Macke Monologues

    Yes! Blogging has opened so many doors.
    The biggest for me are asking to review products and meeting people I otherwise would likely shy away from.

  • Unless you are anonymous…which I was the first few months I started to blog. But, I definitely agree–putting your life out there is scary!

  • Exactly! I mean, I feel that you and I are getting pretty close, but if I lived in SoCal, I'd probably still be a little nervous and shy meeting you IRL for the first time!

  • I love this! I'm incredibly outgoing but I'm not very brave in sharing my struggles. It's not that I want to mask my feelings but being around people gives me energy. When I'm in a group of people (unless they're all pregnant ha) I am usually smiling and not thinking about the current struggle of infertility. Blogging helps me be brave in sharing transparently about my sufferings!

  • Brandy, I think you are VERY brave, braver than most, because you share raw, honest feelings about something super personal on your blog. You are awesome!

  • I love this post. I'm the same way with feeling like I'm too small of a blogger to be with the bigger bloggers. I also get nervous about asking for products to review. I never know how to get more followers without being super pushy. And when I leave a group I often feel like I'm being talked or laughed at. But blogging, so far, has made me brave because I'm putting my opinions and thoughts out into the world and hoping for positive feedback. I've only been blogging for about 5 months and I only have a handful of followers, hopefully that can change soon.

  • The Giveaway Girls

    I'm not a big blogger either, but I love going to the bloggin gatherings around here. I'm not one in the trendy clothes or with the fancy camera. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Blogging made me more social. For sure. I'm from Virginia too!! ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Aim’s Creations

    I'm not a big blogger either, but I love going to the bloggin gatherings around here. I'm not one in the trendy clothes or with the fancy camera. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Blogging made me more social. For sure. I'm from Virginia too!! ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Where in Virginia?