On Friendship and Friendshipping

I was lucky enough to join the Nectar Collective‘s Snail Mail Collective this month!
Melyssa paired everyone up and we were to get to know each other–email each other, stalk each other’s social media. We were to become friends. Then, at the end of the year, we were send them a considerate letter in the mail.
The point of this was to make new friends and to spread cheer and positivity! 
It was a wonderful idea!
In August, I was paired with Melissa Sarno. She blogs at This Too. She lives in New York City with her husband. She used to work in television, but now is a writer for Fisher-Price. She hopes to someday be a YA novelist and has started working on a book based off Coney Island. She and her husband are expecting their first child–a son! How exciting!
We emailed just about everyday and shared our lives with each other. When the time came to send each other our letter, I was excited. The theme was “Under the Sea.” Well, Utah isn’t near a sea, so instead, I got her a Discovery Kids sticker book about under the sea creatures. I thought she’d like it since it was little kid writing, like what she does for Fisher-Price. I also sent her a post card with the Provo Temple and a BYU newspaper. She had been curious about the culture in Utah and I wanted to help her understand. She sent me a very sweet package.
The post card was very sweet and supportive of me starting my first week of school. Thus, she got me apple flavored Hi-Chews, which she didn’t know is one of my favorite candies. She also learned that Justin and I loved oriental food, so she bought us a cute little set of chopsticks! I love them!
Melissa was a great pair for me. We got to know each other very well. That is one thing that I like about the Snail Mail Collective. Yes, you follow each other’s social media and support each other’s blog, but the main thing is to become a true friend. Melissa and I were definitely penpals. We got to truly know one another. And guess what, we still aren’t done emailing each other. The Snail Mail Collective had succeeded in its goal: to friendship bloggers.
Friendshipping is of huge importance, especially in the LDS Church. The point of friendshipping is to not only become friends with others, but help them feel welcome and a part of the church. Now, friendshipping doesn’t necessarily have to just be for the LDS Church. Friendshipping at a new job (like at new schools), new neighborhoods, and for new members of families (in-laws) is very important. It allows people to know we care about them. 
Elder Marlin K. Jensen, a member of the LDS Quorum of the Seventy during a General Conference talk in 1999, said, “friendship is one of the grand fundamental principles of ‘Mormonism'”. Think of the scripture when Jesus said, “If ye love me, feed my sheep.” Being a true friend, just showing you care is a blessing to those who need it. Some tips of friendshipping are: smiling and caring, remembering important dates, keeping each other informed, when appropriate share Gospel messages, seek common interests, and most importantly, pray for them. If you do this, then you will have a true friend and you will become a true friend. We should try and help everyone feel loved and accepted.
So, make sure to try and join the Nectar Collective’s next Snail Mail Collective here!
Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.