Patience

One of my biggest weaknesses is patience. I have been impatient most of my life…I don’t like waiting and I don’t like enduring, and when I get upset–whoo boy step aside!

It’s not that I’ve considered patience being weak, but apparently some people do. Some people see having patience as being a pushover, being passive. But that’s not true at all.

The past few years, I’ve been trying to work on my patience. And, it is hard. Especially as a teacher dealing with angsty preteens! And being a mom! And, now, this year, having the most immature group of 7th graders I have ever seen (all the junior high teachers agree!).

With teaching, I used to pray for my students’ hearts to soften, for them to realize how important their education is, for them to be responsible, for them to be respectful, the list could go on and on. I realized that wasn’t the right thing to be praying for. So, I started praying for myself to show patience towards them. And, for the most part, it helps. Now, that doesn’t mean I’ve become an “anything-will-go-in-my-class” type of teacher or a pushover. No. If there is misbehavior, I sternly and quickly take care of it, typically removing the situation, but I am able to keep my cool and carry on smoothly with a smile  most of the time. But, there are still some days where it is extremely hard and I end up giving lectures on behavior and responsibility.

It has also been difficult being a new mom. The first time someone told me how patient I am was a a few weeks after Rhys was born. I was having trouble nursing him the first few weeks, in a lot of pain, and trying different things to help Rhys get enough milk. Even with the fussing and the not wanting to latch, I calmly and quitely soothed him and kept helping him try. My mom watched and told me how patient and loving I was. She has never really told me that before–like I said, patience is a weakness–so it came as a huge compliment. I don’t function well on little sleep, so when Rhys has trouble sleeping at night, I’m a little worse for ware towards him and my husband. Rhys sometimes has trouble napping and sometimes refuses to drink his bottles. These frustrate me because I worry so much about his physical well-being. Sometimes, I am embarrassed to say, I lose my cool. I clench my teeth and feel the blood boil. I know it’s not fair to be upset at a baby, and I try not to be, but I just want what is best for Rhys. So, I’ve spoken very sternly to him a few times, but mostly, if I feel this happening, I put him in his crib and walk away. Or, if Justin is home, I go on a walk or a drive to cool my head.

I’m trying very hard to be more of a patient person. I don’t want to yell at Rhys or any other children I have. I don’t want to be the mean teacher. I want to be patient, long-suffering, enduring. I constantly pray for help in that area and am constantly working on it. That is why the following quote from President Dieter F. Uchtdorf, the 2nd Counselor in the General Presidency of the LDS Church hit me so hard. Patience isn’t being weak. It isn’t doing nothing and letting everything else happen. It is hard and it does take practice and time. It is being anxiously engaged and constantly working towards something.

Hopefully, those who know me well have seem (at least in the tiniest amount) a difference in my level of patience in the past few years. I know I still have a long way to go. So, on my journey to be more patient, please be patient with me.

Does patience come easily to you? What are some things you do to help yourself be more patient?

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Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.
  • Love this!!! Patience is so hard sometimes. The quote gives great perspective though!

  • Desiree @ Macke Monologues

    Patience is something I struggle with as well. It's something I constantly pray for help with. However, a friend of mine once said something that really made me stop and think:
    God doesn't GIVE you patience. He TEACHES you patience.
    So, when you're in the throws of a difficult teaching day, or a difficult parenting day, and seeking patience, remember that you're being taught the art of patience right in that very moment.

  • That is a very good point, Desiree. It also goes along with Uchtdorf's quote–it something active that you have to work for.

  • I have found that patience comes with age. I really do see a big difference in from now from the me of twenty years ago. It's a process!

  • I used to be the most impatient person you could imagine. I've learned a lot of patience in the last few years and am doing so much better than I used to. Keep praying and keep working at it. Eventually it will be something almost natural for you.

  • I think you hit the nail on the head…it's less about changing the person/situation and more about us learning to be patient and grow in our weaknesses.

  • Patience is definitely difficult for me too–probably less in day-to-day life, and more so in the 'big things' I want to happen or accomplish. But waiting is necessary!

  • I struggle with patience as well! My fiancé always teases me for being impatient, and I am. I'm always looking forward and sometimes forget to appreciate the present. I'm working on living in the moment, but it's hard!

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  • I'm definitely not patient either. I have to work really hard at it and probably always will.

  • Hopefully I'll get there someday, sooner rather than later! HA! There's the impatience again! Xo

  • That's definitely how it was for the summer!

  • That's definitely what I've been doing, and I do know I am more patient that I was as a teen and kid, but I still feel there is a huge room for improvement.

  • And, I think that is how we should feel about every situation…take the beam out of thy own eye before removing the mote in the other….or something like that in the NT

  • And see, I'm the opposite…since I'm a planner and responsible, I'm a bit more patient with big things than I am the little things in day-to-day life

  • It definitely is, but at least your fiance is patient with your impatience!