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Feeling Confident in Maternity Clothing

Maternity fashion can be cute and comfortable!

I was always uncomfortable when I was pregnant with Rhys. There were numerous reasons: I was teaching full-time and had to be in dresses or slacks and dressy clothes the entire week, I was always tired because of the stress of teaching a new subject at a new school, and I was getting too big for my regular clothes, but too small for real maternity clothing. Oh, and my third trimester was the last semester of school and my classroom’s AC unit didn’t work. Yeah. Joy. By the last few weeks of school, my wardrobe was super limited. At home, I was mostly wearing my pajama pants and Justin’s shirts. I didn’t really feel confident in my looks.

Maternity fashion can be cute and comfortable!

However, this summer, when we learned we were moving to Texas, I immediately started looking for more maternity clothing. I didn’t really have any leisure maternity clothes. I bought some maternity shorts and some boyfriend tees from Old Navy. But, as I got bigger, my non-maternity “maternity” clothing that I wore all the time last pregnancy, wasn’t really cutting it anymore. I could still fit in, but my underwear was tight, my shirts showed every roll. No.

My mom came and visited and I was stressing over what to wear out that didn’t make me look huge: wide and fat. She spoiled me by buying me a lot of maternity clothes. I was also convinced by my friend Danica (an Old Navy die hard) to get some maternity leggings.

With my new wardrobe or maternity pants, shorts, leggings, shirts, tanks, and dresses (and bigger underwear), I feel comfortable. I didn’t think you could be this comfortable while pregnant and still look super cute! I am so happy that my mother and I both spent money on a real maternity wardrobe for me. I feel confident. I can’t wait to mix and max my new clothes, put on makeup, do my hair, and go somewhere to show off my bump. And that has really made a big difference the past few weeks for me.

Maternity fashion can be cute and comfortable!

I’m not wanting to sit or lay down all the time. I’m not adjusting the lines on my underwear against the lines of my maternity pants. I don’t feel like I’m exploding out of my shirts. But, I’m not wearing baggy clothing, like pajamas and Justin’s shirts. Sure, I look at my photos from my bumpdates and think to myself: I sure look really wide in that photo. But, I have to remember the camera puts on 10 pounds. And, I don’t look wide in front of my mirror. People give me compliments on my outfits, especially at church. That’s what I need to focus on–the positive. How do I feel in what I wear? Right now, I feel good about my looks, therefore, I look good.

So seriously, invest in some bigger underwear, cute maternity pants of different fabrics and lengths, and adorable maternity shirts or tunics. Check out Old Navy and Target–they always have maternity stuff on sale–that’s where I was lead to!

Maternity fashion can be cute and comfortable!

I am so lucky to have friends who have been pregnant both times I have! So, I have teamed up with some of these ladies to showcase our favorite maternity outfits as well as talk about how they are confident as well. Make sure you check them out.

Danica from Danikan Skywalker
Bonnie from The Life of Bon
Emma from Ever Emma
Maternity fashion can be cute and comfortable!
I absolutely love these shorts! They are from Old Navy and are the absolute perfect length to work with my Mormon underwear, which go to a few inches above my knees! And, they are so comfy in this horrible Texan summer…yes, it’s still in the mid-high 80s here! And this shirt isn’t maternity, but it’s supposed to be loose fitting and I love how it accentuates my belly!
28 weeks pregnant and rocking a cute "non-maternity" maternity outfit: black maternity shirt from @OldNavy, non-maternity Maxi dress, and amethyst necklace from @happinessbtq
I love maxi skirts because they aren’t maternity! They work without a bump and work for a bump! The shirt is maternity. I love getting solid colored neutral tone shirts so I can layer them or mix and match.
Baby #2 Evelyn. 23 weeks bumpdate.
This outfit was my favorite up until my 3rd trimester. It is a boyfriend tee (non-maternity) and worked with my smaller bump…now it’s getting a bit too short and boxy for me without a tank under it. These capris aren’t maternity either, but only have elastic on them, so they worked perfectly with my growing bump. Sadly, these pants died in the wash…I put them in perfectly in tact, just stinky, and they came out with big holes in the seams!!!!! I was so sad putting them in the trash!
What are your favorite maternity outfits and why? How do you make yourself look comfortable and confident while pregnant?
Tayler from The Morrell Tale.com

Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.

I Am Anxious

Last night found me on the floor of our guest bedroom crying my eyes out.

I have anxiety. Most of the time, it’s under control, but sometimes, it gets out of hand and I lose it–I lose my faith in myself, I feel depressed for a few days, and nothing anyone says will make me believe otherwise. Typically, I have anxiety attacks when everything seems to pile upon each other.

This time, it was a few things:
~ I have been told by two people that I am impatient with Rhys
~ I am just about fed up with his bloody-murder piercing screaming phase
~ He is such a poor teether–he’s barely eaten in the past week and a half and is starting to lose a tiny bit of weight
~ I am now a SAHM (big transition)
~ I am afraid that I won’t have the patience to be a SAHM 24/7 since I’ve already had two breakdowns having to do with Rhys already this past year
~ I wondered if we made a mistake in having me be a SAHM rather than continue working (because of the above…and maybe a teeny bit financially, but mostly because of the above)

It is crippling to have these thoughts because they do lead to a downward spiral. Anxiety attacks don’t just happen…it has to be the straw that broke the camel’s back. I’ve been worried about these things over the past few weeks and although a major burden has been lifted from my shoulders because school is over, on the inside, I’ve still felt glum.

But, not only do I feel down, I don’t feel like doing anything else. That is why I haven’t really been putting my heart and soul into blogging the past two weeks or so–my sponsors haven’t been getting what they paid for, excellent quality writing hasn’t appeared, and networking hasn’t been happening. I don’t want to work on my goals, I don’t want to work out, I don’t even want to watch TV.

It also makes me very tired. I’ve been going to bed between 8:30-9:30 many times this week because I’ve just been so emotionally overwhelmed.

I want to be able to succeed. I want to be a good SAHM. I want to be patient with my son–he’s only 11 months old, after all, and everyone always tells me everything “is just a phase.”

So here is my prayer:

Please allow me to have faith in myself that I have the ability to be a SAHM, as it’s been my dream for a long time. Please allow me to find the patience for both myself and Rhys. Please allow me to be able to know what I need to do to help him continue to get the nutrients he needs without beginning bad habits. Please allow me to have confidence in myself and the decisions my husband and I make. Please give me counsel as a mother when I need it and trust in my own maternal instincts.


What parts of the transition was hard for you when you became a SAHM?

Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.

How Blogging Makes Me Brave

I’m pretty much an introvert. If you throw me into a crowd, I’ll be the quiet one, trying not to get in anyone’s way. If I go to a party, I’m typically the one doing all the listening and none of the talking. Even at dinner parties and family gatherings, I’m not one to talk unless asked a question. Aside from playing sports, I’m not a group person that much. I’d rather read or hang out with my family than go to a party or an event.

However, blogging has started to change me in the past three years.

It has started to make me brave.

I used to be an introvert. But slowly and surely, blogging is helping me to get out of my shell.

Group/Sponsored Events
When I first started blogging and going to group events or blogger parties, I was scared to death. I didn’t know anyone, I had a minuscule blog compared to most who were going, I didn’t fit in with trendy clothes, the latest iPhones, notebooks, or DSLRS. Everyone seemed to know each other and were having the time of their life staging photos. But, now, I try to take a plus 1 (either another blogger friend, or my husband). I’m not afraid to stage photos, because, hey, everyone else is doing it. And, I’m able to converse in some light chitchat with other bloggers.

Asking For Products
I used to wonder how lucky the bigger bloggers were to get so many free products to review and giveaway. I didn’t feel worthy of any product review since I was such a small blogger, so whenever I had the chance, I was beyond grateful for the opportunity. Last year, Provo started doing a food truck round up. There were tons of new food trucks, and it was both hipster and blogger mecca. I decided to home make some business cards because I’ve heard stories of presenting yourself as a blogger with a business card and getting some free products/food in exchange for a review. Well, at each food truck that we purchased something at, I handed them a card and hoped for some free addition. That didn’t happen, but it took a lot of gut to present myself. I’ve also done that once or twice on etsy, but my mistake was doing it around the holidays. I had a few Etsy owners say they’d love for me to do a review, but didn’t have any extra product to handout for free, but instead offered me a discount. I’m going to be working on a media kit in the next few weeks and put myself out there again. Even though I’m still quite the tiny blogger, I feel it’s a matter of presentation and confidence to get product for reviews.

Photos
I used to hate getting pictures of myself. I don’t believe that I’m photogenic and I just always look and feel awkward…getting our engagement photos done was murder for both of us! Fashion bloggers are always outside posing like models in public places. I’ve wanted to do a few fashion posts, too. But, being outside in front of my housing complex, with a tripod (and now an infant in a stroller), taking pictures of myself while cars and people pass by, is still embarrassing, but not as much as it used to be. I used to pretend like I was fixing my camera whenever someone came near. Now, I just grin, bear it, and wave.

Bigger Bloggers and Collaborations/Hosting Events
Bigger bloggers used to intimidate me. I felt unworthy in their presence. I remember last year, two of my favorite bloggers were pregnant and due at the same time as me. All three of us were teachers as well. So, I gathered up courage to ask them if they wanted to do a collaboration of our decision of staying a working mom or SAHM. I was sure they’d reject the idea, but they were both really into it! After going to a Scentsy party for one of my bigger blogger friends, I was thrilled to death when she asked if I wanted to host one for her. I now have quite a few bigger blogger friends with babies or toddler or are pregnant, so I decided to organize a baby play date. They were all wanting to come, but as plans rolled out, only half were able to make it, but it made me feel so good that they wanted to come in the first place!

Blogger Roundtable/Meetings
I love meeting other bloggers and getting tips and suggestions on how to improve my blogging. There are a lot of bigger bloggers with 1000s of followers, medium sized bloggers with 500+ followers, then there is me with 160-250ish on any given platform. I used to feel unworthy to add to the discussion–who would listen to someone who can’t seem to grow their blog big? However, I’ve been blogging for 6 years now am an avid blog reader and writer. I feel that I do know some know-how. On Saturday, I went to one of these. There were only four of us, and I knew all of them. Two were 1000+ followers, one with almost 1000. And me. But, I was able to explain how to use Latergramme on the laptop to them and something about Disquis. It made me feel so good. And the fact that they listened to me and made me feel just like them made me very confident.

Friendships and Confidence
Once I left Virginia after I graduated high school in 2008, something changed in me and it was harder to make and develop deep friendships. But, blogging has helped me through that. Yes, many of my friends are “online friends” who I probably will never meet in real life. But, we know every detail of each other’s lives, as if we’d been friends for years. And, some bloggers I have considered long-distance friends for years. Many bloggers here in Utah I’ve met in real life, exchanged phone numbers with, and talk with a lot. I love blogging for this very reason. I don’t and won’t feel alone. Next year, when I’m a full-time SAHM, I can just go online and hang out with friends, or I can call up one of my local blogger friends and go get brunch or have a playdate with them and their kids.

I feel better about myself because I am a blogger. I feel loved because I am a blogger. I feel like I go out of my box because I am a blogger. I feel confident because I am a blogger. I feel brave because I am a blogger.

How has blogging made you brave?

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Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.

A Month of Confidence: House and Home

Welcome to the last week of a Month of Confidence!

Last week we focused on our jobs and hobbies.

I did great with school! I hardly had anything to bring home this week. I think the fact that my classes have been switched has been a big help! I used to teach the average-leveled 7th graders both literature and language arts. Now, I teach the average 7th graders literature and then the lower-level 7th graders (the remedial class) literature as well. Although the pacing is a challenge, and focusing them to learn and act their age (the lower level is quite immature), I feel that it has been a blessing in disguise because it is less planning as I am at the mercy of their comprehending pace.

I have been able to read a little bit from The Happiest Baby on the Block and my Queen Elizabeth I book, but not as much as I wanted. I found a bejeweled Frozen game for free on the iPhone, and I’ve been playing that every minute I’ve got! So, I have been playing “video games” and Justin has been loving to watch…I didn’t play videogames with Justin, but we’ve been watching a lot of movies and playing board games together, so I’m ok with that. And obviously I didn’t learn how to schedule posts (except for blogger, which I already knew, and facebook).

This week, we’ll be focusing on house and home:

A Month of Confidence

A Month of Confidence

In our old apartment, we were terrible about keeping it clean. And it was so small, that a minuscule mess looked like a hurricane’s path. But, we were both gone all day and exhausted in the evening. The first month or so living here, it was pretty easy to keep clean–I was home all day, my mom was over constantly, and I was too exhausted with a baby to make any sort of mess. When I started teaching, Justin stayed home for a month or so while he searched for jobs. He played Mr. Mom and did a good job of taking care of Rhys and some household chores. But, now that we are both working, it’s getting harder. Dishes and laundry piling up, dirt tracked in on the floors, substituting fast food for a freshly cooked dinner…
But, just because you work (as well as your spouse), doesn’t mean that your house needs to become a disaster zone, nor does it mean you have to use half your Saturday to clean it again. There are small things you can do to have confidence in your home. (It should be pretty easy for me, as we will be gone to relatives for half the week!)
Here is my plan for the Week of House and Home:
– Burn candles, especially specifically smelling ones (like lavender that helps relieve anxiety).
– Do dishes after every meal!
– Make sure laundry doesn’t pile up. And, when I do laundry, immediately fold it!
– Do a 10 minute cleanup before bed every night to help alleviate the mess.
– Get in touch with Bonnie about hosting a Scentsy party. I love candles and want to become more interested in Scensty, as well as I want to host. By hostessing, you become determined to make your house presentable.

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I suggest that you also keep a confidence journal. I am, and each day I will have 3 lists:

1) Drops of Awesome–little things I did or accomplished
2) Little Moments–I have a quote in my living room that says, “Enjoy the little things in life, for someday they will be the big things.”
3) Grateful List–small blessings

Sunday, November 30: Reflection on a Month of Confidence

Check out this lovely lady!
justjacq

Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.

A Month of Confidence–Job and Hobbies

Welcome to the third week of A Month of Confidence!

Last week, we focused on our relationships. It was a tough one for me. Not with Rhys, who is the apple of my eye, but with my husband. The dynamic of our relationship has been different since Rhys was born, and I wanted to make sure it was a good dynamic. It’s hard to keep a pre-baby relationship when you are both working and have to take care of a child.

I was up more in the morning when Justin kissed me as he left (however, that is Rhys’s doing, as he has been waking up at 6:30 more often than 7 last week). I did pretty good with only doing school work when Rhys was asleep, although I did blog some and do social media while he played independently (but I played a lot with him as well). About half the time we ate at the table, but we always ate together. About half the time, I took care of Rhys in the middle of the night–it’s hard to remember that goal when you are still 95% asleep. I wasn’t able to leave little notes for Justin. It’s a bit hard when he gets up and leaves before I do, comes home before I do, and goes to bed with me.

This week, we’re going to focus on confidence in work and hobbies.

A Month of Confidence

A Month of Confidence

As a part-time working mom, I have to balance my work load with my son. Sometimes, that means I don’t get as much done with work as I’d like to, and I scramble during my prep to get things ready for my students. It also means sometimes my hobbies, like working out, reading, blogging, writing, and video-gaming is put on hold. But, with all things, there is balance that can happen. 
But, there are always small things you can do to make sure you can be the best you at your job and have some down-time dedicated for your hobbies.
Here is my plan for the Week of Job and Hobbies:
– While Rhys is taking his morning nap, I will make sure to get everything ready and packed up for work and his babysitter, that way, from 10:00-10:40, I can be on social media.
– I will make sure I read 30 minutes a day. I can’t be on social media until I do so.
– I will learn how to schedule tweets, instagrams, facebook posts this week.
– I will do my school work as soon as I come home and let Justin have some time with Rhys.
– I will not do school work past 9pm.
– I will take one day to play videogames with Justin after Rhys goes to bed.

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I suggest that you also keep a confidence journal. I am, and each day I will have 3 lists:

1) Drops of Awesome–little things I did or accomplished
2) Little Moments–I have a quote in my living room that says, “Enjoy the little things in life, for someday they will be the big things.”
3) Grateful List–small blessings

Sunday, November 23: Confidence in house and home
Sunday, November 30: Reflection on a Month of Confidence


Check out this lovely lady!
justjacq

Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.