“A dream is a wish your heart makes.” We all know the lyrics to the Cinderella song. To me, dreams and wishes are the same thing. I’m not talking about dreams we have when we are sleep. I’m talking about day dreams, dreams of what our lives will be like in the future. Dreams and wishes are nice things to think about. And, I agree with Britt of My Little Sunshines that dreams don’t have to be big or radical. These are some dreams and wishes I have:Wishes and dreams are synonymous. Click To Tweet
For a year, I have wanted to write this post. But, time and inspiration always seemed to get the better of me. However, now that I’m in a new place and a new chapter of life, it seems like the perfect time to revisit this idea. A year ago, Britt of My Little Sunshines, wrote a post entitled, “When Your Dreams Are Small.”
In that post, she talked about how there is a trend going on, especially in social mdia, and especially with the #girlboss push, to chase after big and lofty dreams–saying they are achievable and the only acceptable type of dream to reach for. However, Britt really only had small dreams in comparison: have a healthy marriage to a loving husband, be a mother, and own a house.
It really struck me. I love Britt and one of the reasons I do is how humble and complacent she is. I definitely know that being content is a huge weakness of mine–it is why it’s part of my 2016 mission statement.
I feel that I have had lofty dreams in my life: I wanted to travel Europe more, even live there maybe. I wanted to be a nationwide famous fantasy author. I wanted to be one of the history specialists the History Channel uses in one of their documentaries of medieval history. I wanted to be such an inspirational teacher that I could be on par of those in the movies!
However, now that I’m growing up more, I’m starting to rethink my dreams. And, they aren’t really that big. But, they are achievable.
Now, many people, especially the #girlbosses, would say that I am giving up to easily. That all dreams are achievable with hard work and determination. And I believe that to be true. However, I know where my priorities are: my family and my religion. Many would say, “but you need to be your first priority.” No. God is my first priority, and through that, I am. My family completes me, so I still am my first priority.
My dreams now are still “big”, but not lofty. I mean, it would still be great if any of my lofty dreams came true, and I’m never going to give up on them, but I am starting to be a little smarter with my dreams.
- I want to be a proud Mama who teaches her children both spiritually and academically.
- I want to be the wife that my husband is proud to brag about.
- I want to be a home owner by the time I am 30 (I have 3.5 more years!!).
- I want to get a graduate degree.
- I want to become a history professor sometime in my life.
- I want to grow my blogging/virtual assisting/blog design/freelancing to the point where it can be a supplementary business…bring in a few hundred bucks a month.
These are big dreams in the sense that they are very important, life achievements. They are worth working towards. If I achieve only these, I will consider myself successful in life. I will be content.
A Utility Player of Life–Schooling
I consider myself a life-long learner. I love learning new things, I love discovering new places, reading new stories, exploring new cultures. Favorite subjects of mine have been: History (any and all), English/literature (any and all), Creative Writing, Journalism, Anthropology, World Music, Drama, Sociology, Psychology, Anatomy and Physiology, Geography, Spanish, and Welsh. As you can see, it was a tough decision to do a History Teaching major and English Teaching minor. I would’ve done a Social Sciences composite, allowing me to teach any and all social sciences, but having to take government/political science and economy classes wasn’t worth it at all. So, I am content for now. But, I do plan on going back and getting a Geography endorsement. I also want to go to Grad school, but I don’t know what for yet. These are some of my ideas: medieval history, Welsh history, Tudor history, Arthurian lore, European myth and legend, creative writing…too many options!
As you can see, I am not a master in any one thing. Sometimes I wish I had a niche for myself: be the Etsy crafter creating jewelry or cute crochet items or printables, be the fashion blogger who works with Shabby Apple and Apricot Lane, be the writer who already has sent out inquiries, be the die-hard teacher who has sold lesson plans and planning binders, be the homemaker guru with organization tips and a couponing master, be the nomadic traveler who can photograph the world, be the star of a college sport team with a shot at the majors, be a performance-worthy instrumentalist who loves to give concerts. But, I am none of these because I want to be all of these.
That is one thing I wish for my children. I do want them to explore numerous options, yes, but I do want them to find their niche and prosper and grow in it. As for me, I guess my niche is the life-long learner, willing to try anything at least once, learn a bit of everything–a utility player.