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Marriage Goal for September

Moving during a critical summer has really thrown off traditions for Justin and I.
That’s why I’m really excited to link up with Amberly.

There are two main goals we’d like to work on together:

1) Family Walks
When we lived in Provo, we would take an evening walk every Sunday. We loved it! We would take a new route every week, tell stories about our past, discuss our present (especially the shows we watch), and plan our future.
Now that we are settled and have a defined schedule, and a park in our backyard, we’d like to start that up again. A few weeks after we moved here, we did take a family walk and enjoyed the evening in the park. We loved it and want that to continue. And, it’ll be really exciting when Rhys gets to the age where he can crawl around in the grass!

2) Dinner at the Table
When we lived in our tiny college apartment in Provo, we didn’t really have a lot of room to sit at the table for dinner. And, Justin was busy with homework and I would be working on grading or lesson plans. We’d typically eat while working and/or watching shows on Hulu or Netflix. But, now that we actually have a table and a kitchen and Justin has an 8-5 job instead of awkward evening hours on campus, I want us to eat dinner at the table. Rhys will be taking a nap at this new dinner time and it will be before our shows come on. Also, it’ll prevent crumbs and such getting on the rug that Rhys is starting to roll over on.

Marriage & Relationship Goals

 Marriage & Relationship Goals




New to the Marriage & Relationship Goals Link-up? Goals help our relationships grow stronger and get better with time as well as help us move forward and avoid the “ruts” of life. This link-up was created in hopes of inspiring your relationship with your significant other no matter your chapter in life and love. We would love for you to join us in making the things we do in our relationships intentional. 


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Marriage & Relationship Goals are goals that we, as wives or girlfriends, can make each month to help us strive for the very best in our relationships and keep us moving toward a great future with our significant other. The link-up was put in place for women to join together to inspire and encourage each other in the goals that we set, share in our successes and uplift each other if we struggle. Each month we will summarize the successes we’ve had with our previous month’s goals and set new ones for the coming month. We would love for you to link up with us and share your posts on the first Monday of each month as we strive to be more intentional, serve our significant other and create better relationships.
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Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.

Welcome 2013

2013 is here. The world has not ended, and I am alive (with a terrible, vision-impairing migraine) to welcome another new year.

This year has been a huge chapter in my life: finishing college, a real teaching job, and marriage! I begin this year as a married woman, as I will every year for the rest of my life! It has been one of the best years of my life, albeit one of the most stressful (wedding planning and teaching). 
Looking back at last year’s resolutions, I did pretty well during the first half of the year. Then, life changed…and got busy, busy, busy!
~Attend all FHE’s on Monday nights. Eh, not really. Even though when I was single, my sister was the FHE mom. Married, we try to do something together on Monday nights.
~ Do 100% Visiting Teaching for the whole year. Single, yes. Married, no. I’ve been sick a lot lately.
~ Study and do my best as to keep a GPA of 3.7 or higher. Success! 3.78!
~ Study Welsh for at least 30 min each week. …..If talking about my obsession over Wales counts…
~ Read for myself at least 20 min each day. I did pretty good with that up until October, when I got super busy with teaching.
~ Blog at least once a week. Pretty well. I have the most posts this year out of any year I’ve had this blog.
~ Work on my novel for at least 45 min a week. HAHAHAHAHA….as if I’ve had time.
~ Workout/run 5 days a week. I did okay on this until I got married…or teaching…or both.
~ Maintain my goal weight. Well, it’s true when they say you gain weight the first few months of marriage.
~ Cook 1 new meal a month using a new recipe. Between Justin and I, I think I did really well with this! SUCCESS!
~Read my scriptures every morning. I need to really work on this.
~ Go to the temple at least once a month. I’ve been a couple times and am going tomorrow…but the biggest 2 trips: my endowment and my marriage!

This year, I am going to try to resolve for less. Less is more. 
Here are 2013’s resolutions:
1) Run/workout 3x a week
2) Stay 1 week ahead in lesson plans
3) Daily scripture reading
4) Blog at least once a week and write in my journal more than just Sundays.
5) Try to come out of my shell a little bit more. (I have my own personal cheerleader now–Justin. So, it should be a bit easier.)
And…now that I’m married, I get to do couples resolutions!
1) Better apartment upkeep
2) Daily family scripture reading
Should be a lot easier to do this year! (Notice, no more GPA resolutions…it’s because I’m done with college! Yes, I don’t graduate until after the teaching internship ends, but I’m no longer a student!)

Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.

My Biggest Fear

For the longest time, I thought my biggest fear was losing friends, but I realized that it is just a part of a bigger fear, a fear that constantly holds me back.

“Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.”
-Confucius

I am afraid of failure. In anything. In everything.

This is why I only took IB History and IB English in high school, rather than the entire IB program. I was afraid. I was afraid of not doing well. I was afraid of not understanding. I was afraid that I wouldn’t be able to succeed.

This is why I gave up the Honors Program–I wasn’t caught up on my Great Works, I didn’t want to take a math class (I am honestly, quite deathly afraid of math), I didn’t want to kill myself working on an honors thesis during my first year of teaching.

This is why I was a little nervous to date last semester, after having my heart broken. The whole year before, I had boys break up with: I wasn’t worth it, I was too distant, I was too clingy. I could never be a good girlfriend. It was a scary journey last semester, but ended with good results (I am getting married in August). Too be honest, that scares me too–how good of a wife will I be? Knowing my personality, will I be overbearing, demanding, taking him on a roller coaster ride?

But, has been affecting me the past few weeks. I want to do well in my classes, but working on two separate unit plans, completing a 28 page history paper, creating a classroom management handbook, filing paper work for my student teaching internship, working 3 jobs, and planning a wedding has almost done me in. My writing unit plan is particularly stressful. I consider myself a good writer, and thought this would be easy. Boy was I mistaken. It reminds me of the first day I stepped into my creative writing classroom as a sophomore in high school. We wrote poems based off a prompt. I expected to do well and receive praise–that’s all I had received either online or by my parents. What I got back was a fat “C.” But, through Renard’s amazing teaching, my skill jumped in the next three years. So, I feel the same way now–I am two kinds of writing tutor, I love writing (academic and creative). A writing unit plan should be easy-peazy. LIE! It’s so hard. I’ve even talked to my professor, but that hasn’t helped my fear enough–it helped some, just not enough.

Yesterday, I wanted to just give up on it. That is how I handle things I am afraid at failing at–I just give up on it. Not doing it at all is better than trying, putting in all your effort and failing, right? I give up on things. Earlier this week, my stress reached its peak and I forgot to blog for a day. Then, I was too tired the next day. So, I gave up on the 3rd day.

Even today, as I was feeling this stressed and down about my self-confidence and ability, I overheard my co-workers’ conversation. We are all writing tutors for the social science college, so we are all expected to be pretty far in our major as well as have good GPA’s. Mine right now is a 3.78 out of 4. I thought that was pretty good. Until I heard their discussion…3.84 and 3.86. One spent $20 on a language test to get 8 credits, but ended with an A- and told the administration not to count it because it would bring her GPA down. I would have excepted it in an instant–an A- on one of BYU’s language test-outs? Then, I looked at my transcript since freshman year. Mostly A’s and A-‘s. A few B+’s. Then, that glaring C+ from my History 220 class. I am a history major–1st part of American History should be easy, right? After my first poor quiz grade and poor paper grade, I went to talk to the professor and did all she suggested. I talked to her numerous times, but no matter what I did that she told me to do, my grade never rose. It made me feel inadequate.

Now, I am teaching 7th and 8th graders next year. Throughout all my teaching classes, I’ve heard stories of amazing teachers. I am deathly afraid. What if I can’t inspire my students? What if I can’t reach them? What if they don’t care about my class? What if I don’t know enough about my subject? I am afraid.

This weekend, I think I will pray for bravery. I will continue because I persevere–I do what I have to. But, that does nothing for my attitude. I am afraid. I am scared. I am not confident at all. Not for anything in the next two week, not for the summer, not for the fall.

Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.

New Year's Resolutions 2012

This year has been a whirlwind for me. In the spring, I ended the school year by saying goodbye to two of the best roommates I have ever had as they moved out. One graduated and now works for a local newstation. The other is student teaching in a nearby city. I have only seen them a handful of times since April and everytime was like Christmas!

Over the summer, I stayed in Provo over the summer for the first time instead of going home. It was just Danielle and I in the house we rent. I kind of liked it. Danielle is my best friend and a wonderful roommate and we had some very peaceful evenings. I also biked up and down the Provo River numerous times–I came to love Provo in the spring/summer. I was also an EFY counselor for the first time ever. The best job I have ever had.

The fall came with some bumps. Danielle and I got 3 new roommates, some of which we clash terribly with. Just different personalities than we have. We have some fun times though. I had decided not to date anyone or go looking for boys, but I found myself in a wonderful relationship nonetheless. I lagged a lot with my habits–sleeping, procrastinating, eating, working out, etc.

Here are last year’s resolutions:
– As always, I will keep a GPA higher than 3.7
This I succeeded in. I ended the semester with my highest GPA yet: 3.93, giving me an overall GPA of 3.78!
– As always, I will work out 5 days a week and keep my ideal weight.
I did wel until the summer, then going back and forth from EFY, I kind of failed and definitely failed in the fall.
– I will do more charity and service this year.
I began indexing and love doing it–an easy way to do temple work and civil service at the same time.
– I will BE the right person – the kind of friend I want, the kind of homemaker I should be, etc.
I think I have done well with this.
– I will continue stepping out of my box socially.
I definitely stepped out of my box in the summer–not only within my apartment complex, but as an EFY counselor as well.
– I will study Welsh for at least 1 hour a week.
Eh, I did join a Welsh reading and translation class for the fall.

So, I did ok on my resolutions. However, I think that this year, I will try something different because this year will be full of changes to my life anyway:
I will not have New Year’s Resolutions.
Instead, I will have New Year’s Goals. You see, the reason we never keep our New Year’s Resolutions is because we aren’t held accountable for them. But goals are SMART.

S – specific, significant, stretching
M – measurable, meaningful, motivational
A – agreed upon, attainable, achievable, acceptable, action-oriented
R – realistic, relevant, reasonable, rewarding, results-oriented
T – time-based, timely, tangible, trackable

So, here are my 2012 Goals:

Socially
~ Attend all FHE’s on Monday nights.
~ Do 100% Visiting Teaching for the whole year.

Academically
~ Study and do my best as to keep a GPA of 3.7 or higher
~ Study Welsh for at least 30 min each week.
~ Read for myself at least 20 min each day.
~ Blog at least once a week.
~ Work on my novel for at least 45 min a week.

Physically
~ Workout/run 5 days a week.
~ Maintain my goal weight (sorry, you don’t get to hear that!)
~ Cook 1 new meal a month using a new recipe

Spiritually
~ Read my scriptures every morning.
~ Go to the temple at least once a month.

So, I know it seems like a lot, but they’re all little things. Wish me luck!

Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.

2011 New Year's Resolutions

This past year has been full of adventure – I ended the last school year poorly in the social realm, albeit great in the academic realm. I traveled to Great Britain during the summer. In the fall, I moved into a house and had all new roommates.

I did pretty well for 2010’s resolutions:
– For the most part of the year, I worked out, though, I faltered near the end of the year.
– I did dress for success – in the Winter semester, I had to for my Secondary Education class, but this Fall semester, I decided to keep the tradition.
– Winter semester, I gained a 3.89 GPA, Summer I got a 4.0, and this Fall, I got a 3.78.
– I was plenty sociable – the hardest part was this semester, without my previous roommates leading the way in social life. But, I was able to occasionally step out of my box.
– For the most part, I was able to keep my living area cleaned – in my house now, I don’t mind doing the dishes all the time, or scrubbing the bathroom if needs be.
– I still need to do better early to bed and early to rise.
– I have not spent time every week doing charity or service.

This year, I want to continue the foundation stones I laid in 2010.
– As always, I will keep a GPA higher than 3.7
– As always, I will work out 5 days a week and keep my ideal weight.
– I will do more chairty and service this year.
– I will BE the right person – the kind of friend I want, the kind of homemaker I should be, etc.
– I will continue stepping out of my box socially.
– I will study Welsh for at least 1 hour a week.

Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.