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Why I Love Motherhood

Motherhood is the best thing to have ever happened to me. I can't imagine life any other way.

I always knew I would enjoy being a mother. But, it just happens that I love motherhood more than I ever could! I fall more in love with my son every day. Sometimes I wonder how in the world will I ever love another child as much as I love Rhys. I mean, I know I will, but it’s very hard to imagine.

Motherhood is the best thing to have ever happened to me. I can't imagine life any other way.

Cuddles | Rhys is at the age that he intentionally will give me cuddles. He obliges me all the time when I ask him for a hug or a kiss. But, the best is when he will just randomly come up to me and give a hug or a kiss. Every morning, we cuddle in bed as he drinks a wake-up bottle and I read the scriptures. His favorite thing to do after a shower is cuddle in the blankets with me. Nothing is better than the feeling of my son’s arms wrapped around my neck or his head resting on my bosom.

Having a Buddy | Rhys is my best buddy–I tell him that all the time. I love taking him with me everywhere. I enjoy spending time with Rhys, going shopping with Rhys, eating out with Rhys, going on walks with Rhys.

Watching him grow | It’s so fun to watch children grow and develop right in front of my eyes. Every milestone excited me–I scared Rhys with my joyous outburst when he rolled over for the first time. I just love watching him make connections and discover new things. It’s so much more fulfilling than it was to see my students finally understand a concept (and that was definitely thrilling)!

It helps my patience | I’m not the most patient person ever. But, I feel that my patience has grown since being a mother. I still have a long way to go, but I feel like I’m doing better every day. I don’t get as angry with him anymore–I still get frustrated, but I breathe in, close my eyes, and breathe out before talking.

Silly times | Toddlers are the funniest! I am so excited that Rhys is now at that stage. He makes the funniest faces and does the silliest things at times. I always laugh every day. Rhys can also tell if I’m feeling down. When that happens, he’ll try to cheer me up with being silly.

Sharing memories | It has been so fun to share in memories with Rhys: his first Christmas, his first trip to the zoo, sledding for the first time, meeting cousins, etc. I love being able to rediscover the world along with Rhys, as well as make memories with my child.

He is my heart | Justin and I were given Rhys from Heavenly Father. He is our flesh and blood. He is our heart. He is our happiness. He is the apple of our eyes. He is our pride and joy. We are complete with him.

Why do you love motherhood?

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Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.

7 Ways to “Exercise” at Home

Being a stay-at-home mom with a toddler in the middle of winter makes it very difficult to exercise. Motivation is at an all-time low. Equipment and resources are limited. Time is hardly to be found. Attention is never fully given to exercise (especially if you have a toddler climbing on you playing or needing your attention).

I know that spring is in the air now, and winter is behind us. But, there are still some days that I don’t want to go out–if the air pollution is bad, it’s raining or windy, or I’m just not feeling well. But, there are still very easy ways to “exercise” in the house as a stay-at-home mom without having to actually exercise! [ctt title=”But, there are still very easy ways to ‘exercise’ in the house as a stay-at-home mom without having to actually exercise!” tweet=”There are very easy ways to ‘exercise’ in the house as a stay-at-home mom without having to actually exercise! @themorrelltale” coverup=”b70o5″]

Being a SAHM of a toddler in inclement and cold weather can be hard when you want to exercise and work out. But, no fear! There are easy ways to "workout" at home without any equipment and doing what you would normally be doing during the day anyway!

Stand while folding laundry | Doing laundry, I would typically sit on my bed while watching Netflix. But, I was always slumped down, so it wasn’t helping my back. And, I was stationary. So, I made the decision to stand up while folding laundry. I only do laundry one day a week, so it’s quite a bit of folding and putting away. I’ve also noticed that my fitbit steps increase when I stand up to do laundry.

Have a cleaning marathon | I typically do all my scrubbing and cleaning on Friday mornings. It takes about 2-3 hours to clean everything in the house. But, I’m definitely in a sweat and wanting a shower when I’m done! Scrubbing really does burn calories! Elbow grease for the win!

Put the computer on a counter | Obviously as a blogger and a virtual assistant, I spend a lot of time on my laptop. That means a lot of sitting! Yikes! If I put my computer on a counter, I have to stand to use it. Standing actually burns a lot of calories. I didn’t gain weight at all being a teacher (because of all the standing), but since quitting, I’ve been sitting down a lot more and have gained a bit of weight.

Have a dance party | Holy guacamole! Do you even realize how much energy 20 month olds have? Rhys loves dancing to music, especially music in his shows and movies. So, sometimes, I’ll dance with him. It’s an easy way to be silly, let loose, bond with my son, and get up and moving. Justin and I have even put in Just Dance on the Wii and played that with Rhys.

Play follow the leader with toddlers | Just like the above suggestion, this one requires a whole heck of a lot of moving. Rhys has recently found it very hilarious when we copy him. So, I’ll copy him running from place to place, swinging arms around, laying on the floor and getting back up, and all sorts of movement. I can really only do it for less than 10 minutes because he’s so active![ctt title=”Being the mom of a toddler allows you to get a LOT of exercise inside the house!” tweet=”Being the mom of a toddler allows you to get a LOT of exercise inside the house! #healthylifestyle #sahm @themorrelltale” coverup=”0086E”]

Find and use an exercise app | I’ve recently found Sworkit via Shark Tank. It’s a wonderful app that gives timed and video workout of either yoga, cardio, strength, or stretching. I’ve used it a few times when the weather has been inclement. It doesn’t require any equipment, and  you can make it anywhere from 5-60 minutes long. But, what I love more about it, it gives daily reminders to get moving and workout.

Play TV workout gamesWe’ve all heard of them…they’re the same as the shot-drinking TV games, but for workouts. I’ve actually made a few for some of my favorite sitcoms and games shows.

How do you “exercise” at home?

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Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.

A Monotonous Life

When I was a single-college student, no day was the same. True, class, work, and homework were first priority, but other than that, it was freedom. I could roam the small town of Provo myself, or go on adventures with my friends. Dating also made life interesting. 

When Justin and I were first married, again, no day was the same. True, I went to teach every day and Justin had to work and do homework every day, but there were so many news. Each day of teaching was a brand new experience for me, Justin and I would try different restaurants, and go on different dating adventures.

But, as soon as we had Rhys, life started to slow a little. It was the same thing every day. The only thing that made each day interesting was Rhys–just watching him grow made every day interesting. 

It still does. I love watching my boy grow and develop and discover. But, one of the hardest things about becoming a stay-at-home-mom without a car (Justin takes our only car to work with him), I kept getting cabin fever. Last summer, I shared Rhys and my daily schedule. It was the same every day. And, when it started getting cold, we couldn’t even go outside anymore. I started to get real bored and crave going out, anywhere. My life was monotonous and it was a contributing factor for my anxiety and depression.

Little by little, I was able to make the most of each day. It took a while, and sometimes, I still feel bored with my life. But, there are ways to try to overcome a monotonous life.

Do you lead a boring life, or monotuous? You can still have interesting things happen.

Change up your path

Rhys and I try to go outside as often as we can. In the warm weather, we typically just went to the park. But, then, I decided to get a bike trailer. Now, when it’s not freezing cold, we bike around the city and visit different shops, or explore new neighborhoods. If you run outside, don’t take the same path. Mix it up. Find different parks for your kids to play at.

Go on family outings

Since we only have one car, the places where I can get to are limited. At least three times a week, when Justin gets home, we all hop in the car and go out. Sometimes we go to game shops and look at the pre-owned games. Sometimes we run errands. Sometimes we just walk around malls. Sometimes, we go out to eat. It’s always nice to just get out of the house whether or not you actually have a point to do so.

Rely on Pinterest

Find some sort of DIY project to work on or some new activity for you and your kids or a new recipe to make. Not only will it be an adventure because it’s new, but it takes up time and is a great way to keep yourself and your kids from watching TV. Also, if you are a blogger, it’s great material for a post!

Focus on the little things

There is a little plaque on my fireplace mantle that says, “Enjoy the little things in life for one day, you’ll look back and realize they were the big things.” I try to take that to heart. Ann Voskamp has also really changed my view on the little things–she is even thankful to God for a bubble! Find something good about each day. Whether it be something you achieved, something cute your child did, or something you saw outside. I really tend to focus on Rhys, now, and I am awed daily by his growth and development.

Do you lead a boring life, or one that is monotuous? You can still have interesting things happen.
How do you overcome a boring, monotonous life?

Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.

Daily Schedule for a 14 month old

Since transitioning to being a SAHM, Rhys and I have developed somewhat of a routine. There are some variations on different days, and we don’t always follow it. But, this is what an average day looks like with me and my 14 month old.

daily schedule of a SAHM with a 14 month old

6:00 AM Justin gets up to get ready for work. Sometimes, I’ll get up, too, and read scriptures and get Justin a breakfast and/or lunch made. Most days, I sleep in a bit more. If Rhys wakes up before 6:45, we give him a bottle and keep him in his crib, hoping he’ll fall back asleep.

6:50-7:30 AM Justin leaves around 7. Rhys typically wakes up around this time, so I’ll get him a bottle and we’ll go on a run. Unless one of us is sick or the weather isn’t that great. If that’s the case, we just watch Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood. We are hoping to get a gym membership since it is starting to get a little cooler in the mornings, and then we’d have to reconfigure our workout schedule.

8:00 AM We have breakfast. Rhys has either oatmeal, Rice Krispies, Cheerios, yogurt, eggs, or toast and fruit. After breakfast, we clean up the kitchen (Rhys loves to help sweep with his little toddler broom), do chores, and get dressed. Sometimes, I’ll take a shower and baby-gate-lock him in his room (and he screams the entire time) or I pop him in the shower with me (and he slips and slides and I can’t shave). Especially since he’s down to one small nap, I don’t want my “me” time to be diminished by having to get dressed for the day, so I’ll take 15 minutes of screaming while I’m in the shower. If we have the car, we also go run our errands.

9:30 AM Rhys has independent play time while I check social media. Sometimes, we’ll go out on the porch. Often, I’ll play with him as he carries a book or toy over to me and plops down on my lap. Rhys will also have a snack between now and 10:15. We also sing songs, dance, and have learning games.

10:40 AM We go outside. We’ll go on a walk or to the park. Rhys loves to run around and explore and I’ll sit and attempt to read at least one page of a book.

11:45 AM Lunch time. Rhys is a little more resilient to this meal and it requires a lot of patience and his hands-on feeding and distractions. Again, we clean up our mess. He typically doesn’t finish his meal, so we put away for later.

12:00-12:30 PM Rhys is still working on completing the transition down to one nap. So, anywhere between this time he’ll get super tired, I’ll make a bottle, and he’ll take a nap.

1:20-2:00 PM Rhys is used to an hour and a half naps, but at 14 months, that’s not long enough for one nap a day. So, he’ll typically wake up around this point and cry intermittently with me going in every 10 minutes to tell him nap time isn’t over. About 75% of the time, he falls back asleep. Our rule of thumb is that nap time is 2 hours, so he must stay in his crib for that full two hours. I try to get blogging, reading, and a short nap in.

2:00-3:30 PM Rhys wakes up anywhere during this time. We have an afternoon snack (finish his lunch), play a little bit in his room, grab the mail, and play on the porch until Justin comes home.

3:30 PM Justin comes home and we both take turns watching Rhys, playing with him, and playing on the computer. Sometimes, Justin will take Rhys downstairs or in his room while I take a short catnap.

5:30 PM Dinner time.

6:00 PM Bath time, pajama time, family play time, and an evening walk.

6:50 PM Last bottle of the night. and family prayer.

7:30 PM Rhys’s bedtime. Justin and I read scriptures together, then we watch shows or play video games or read or other things.

10:30 PM We go to bed.

If you are a SAHM, what is your schedule like?
 
Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.

The Transition to Being a SAHM

I have now been a stay-at-home-mom for almost three months. It has definitely been a period of trial and error and transition (especially since Rhys is at an age of perpetual transition). And this transition was not always the easiest for either Rhys or me.

When Rhys was born last year, I became a part-time teacher. This year, I'm full-time SAHM. As a workaholic and someone who believes her calling in life is to teach, this is what the summer of transition to being a SAHM was like for me.

Growing up, my life plan was this:
1) Go to BYU and get married.
2) Teach until we had kids.
3) Stay at home until all are school aged and then go back.
4) Eventually become a history professor.

Well, when last summer came around with a brand-new baby on the way, a difficult choice was made. I had fallen in love. In love with my students, my school, my curriculum, my momentum. I loved being a teacher more than I ever dreamed of. And, I just couldn’t shake this feeling that I needed to stay teaching. So, when Rhys came along, I dropped down to be a part-time teacher. And guess what, the Lord works in mysterious ways because for the first term, Justin was still jobless. The Lord was looking out for us financially by making me want to continue to teach.

Being a part-time mom was a nice beginning. Since Rhys was born in the middle of the summer, I had about a month and a half to acclimate to new motherhood before returning to work. That helped lay the foundation for me. I worked everyday during the 2nd half of the school day, roughly 11-3:30. I was able to begin to focus on my health and blog again in the mornings, and by making the ultimatum to not bring work home with me, I was able to focus on m family and my role as mother and wife more.

I had a few samples of what being a SAHM would be like during Christmas break and spring break, while Justin still had to work. I felt I could get used to it. But, I always knew I’d return back to work at the end of the break…

So, here is an analysis of my transition so far:

Positives of being a SAHM thus far

1) Less stress! No lesson plans, no timetables, no contract hours, no commuting, no grading, no worrying about any child other than Rhys!
2) I can wear jeans during the week now, and open toed shoes, and shorts, and I don’t have to wear tights. So nice to be out of the charter school high standard of dress for teachers!
3) I’ve cooked more. True, most have been easy throw-together meals that didn’t require a lot of planning or prepped, but at least it’s better than eating out.
4) I can nap when Rhys naps and not worry about setting an alarm to make sure I still have time to get stuff done or to leave on time.
5) I get to see all of Rhys’s milestones and teach him everything. Honestly, I just love watching him!
6) Did I mention less stress?


Negatives of being a SAHM thus far

1) I don’t have a car. Near the end of the school year, a tree from the city park fell on our 2nd car (a piece of junk, anyway). Thankfully, the city paid us far more than it was worth, but now we are only down to 1 car and since Justin has a job…
2) Little socializing. Point #1 is a big factor into that, but I don’t have colleagues to chat with, or even teens for that matter. A conversation with Rhys can only go so far and only last so long.
3) Too much Netflix! We got rid of cable to help save some money, but I’ve been watching far too much TV and Netflix for my liking.
4) Getting out of the house. It’s been super hot this summer, typically in the 95-105* range. Taking a bike or stroller only gets us so far in this heat. I’d have loved to get out more with Rhys and for my own sanity if we had a second car.


What I’ve learned

1) My anxiety with school has just been overrun by other anxieties, such as Rhys and finances. But, I’m learning to deal with it.
2) It’s okay to still ask for a baby-less day, especially if you have doting family close by who jump at the opportunity to watch him.
3) I have absolutely loved watching Rhys and paying closer attention and detail to him. I love watching him learn and grow and interact with his world. It just reminds me more and more how endless my love is for him and how astounding toddlers can be.
4) I miss those 5 hours and the fact that someone else dealt with rebellion to eat lunch and to nap some days, and that’s ok.
5) Being a SAHM is just as exhausting as being a working mom.
6) I am trying to be more intentional with Rhys and engage more with him by being on social media less when he is awake, or to put it aside when he wants attention.
7) I am able to follow his cue more and be more flexible. For instance, he is in the process of weaning himself off bottles of milk and trying to get down to one nap.
8) I’m still not sure if this is the right long-term plan for us, but so far it has helped my mental and emotional health, and that is what is important right now.
I’m excited to see what the rest of this year will bring us as I continue to transition into being a SAHM!
If you are a SAHM, what was your transition like?

Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.