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Feeling Confident in Maternity Clothing

Maternity fashion can be cute and comfortable!

I was always uncomfortable when I was pregnant with Rhys. There were numerous reasons: I was teaching full-time and had to be in dresses or slacks and dressy clothes the entire week, I was always tired because of the stress of teaching a new subject at a new school, and I was getting too big for my regular clothes, but too small for real maternity clothing. Oh, and my third trimester was the last semester of school and my classroom’s AC unit didn’t work. Yeah. Joy. By the last few weeks of school, my wardrobe was super limited. At home, I was mostly wearing my pajama pants and Justin’s shirts. I didn’t really feel confident in my looks.

Maternity fashion can be cute and comfortable!

However, this summer, when we learned we were moving to Texas, I immediately started looking for more maternity clothing. I didn’t really have any leisure maternity clothes. I bought some maternity shorts and some boyfriend tees from Old Navy. But, as I got bigger, my non-maternity “maternity” clothing that I wore all the time last pregnancy, wasn’t really cutting it anymore. I could still fit in, but my underwear was tight, my shirts showed every roll. No.

My mom came and visited and I was stressing over what to wear out that didn’t make me look huge: wide and fat. She spoiled me by buying me a lot of maternity clothes. I was also convinced by my friend Danica (an Old Navy die hard) to get some maternity leggings.

With my new wardrobe or maternity pants, shorts, leggings, shirts, tanks, and dresses (and bigger underwear), I feel comfortable. I didn’t think you could be this comfortable while pregnant and still look super cute! I am so happy that my mother and I both spent money on a real maternity wardrobe for me. I feel confident. I can’t wait to mix and max my new clothes, put on makeup, do my hair, and go somewhere to show off my bump. And that has really made a big difference the past few weeks for me.

Maternity fashion can be cute and comfortable!

I’m not wanting to sit or lay down all the time. I’m not adjusting the lines on my underwear against the lines of my maternity pants. I don’t feel like I’m exploding out of my shirts. But, I’m not wearing baggy clothing, like pajamas and Justin’s shirts. Sure, I look at my photos from my bumpdates and think to myself: I sure look really wide in that photo. But, I have to remember the camera puts on 10 pounds. And, I don’t look wide in front of my mirror. People give me compliments on my outfits, especially at church. That’s what I need to focus on–the positive. How do I feel in what I wear? Right now, I feel good about my looks, therefore, I look good.

So seriously, invest in some bigger underwear, cute maternity pants of different fabrics and lengths, and adorable maternity shirts or tunics. Check out Old Navy and Target–they always have maternity stuff on sale–that’s where I was lead to!

Maternity fashion can be cute and comfortable!

I am so lucky to have friends who have been pregnant both times I have! So, I have teamed up with some of these ladies to showcase our favorite maternity outfits as well as talk about how they are confident as well. Make sure you check them out.

Danica from Danikan Skywalker
Bonnie from The Life of Bon
Emma from Ever Emma
Maternity fashion can be cute and comfortable!
I absolutely love these shorts! They are from Old Navy and are the absolute perfect length to work with my Mormon underwear, which go to a few inches above my knees! And, they are so comfy in this horrible Texan summer…yes, it’s still in the mid-high 80s here! And this shirt isn’t maternity, but it’s supposed to be loose fitting and I love how it accentuates my belly!
28 weeks pregnant and rocking a cute "non-maternity" maternity outfit: black maternity shirt from @OldNavy, non-maternity Maxi dress, and amethyst necklace from @happinessbtq
I love maxi skirts because they aren’t maternity! They work without a bump and work for a bump! The shirt is maternity. I love getting solid colored neutral tone shirts so I can layer them or mix and match.
Baby #2 Evelyn. 23 weeks bumpdate.
This outfit was my favorite up until my 3rd trimester. It is a boyfriend tee (non-maternity) and worked with my smaller bump…now it’s getting a bit too short and boxy for me without a tank under it. These capris aren’t maternity either, but only have elastic on them, so they worked perfectly with my growing bump. Sadly, these pants died in the wash…I put them in perfectly in tact, just stinky, and they came out with big holes in the seams!!!!! I was so sad putting them in the trash!
What are your favorite maternity outfits and why? How do you make yourself look comfortable and confident while pregnant?
Tayler from The Morrell Tale.com
Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.

6 Ways to Love Your Body

The majority of women at one point in time or other suffer from low self-confidence and low self-image. I’ve always been one of those. But, during college, I worked hard to love myself and my body. Then, I got pregnant. I won’t lie, I looked awesome and amazing pregnant. However, now that I’m not pregnant anymore, I miss my old body. I miss my old weight, my old shape, I miss not having the pudge I do now, I miss having a clear face, and I miss having my full head of hair rather than this continuous hair falling out.

However, always listing what you don’t like about your body and yourself will just make the way you feel worse. Just as we should focus on gratitude to improve our relationship with Christ, we should focus on the positives of our body to love ourselves.
So, Sharlee, from My New Lines, and I decided to come up with 6 ways to love your body.

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No matter what you look like, you should love your body. Self-love is a very important part of living a healthy lifestyle.

 

Tayler

Have a Gratitude List

Not only can gratitude lists apply to your religious or every day life, it can also help you love your body more. List out what you do love about your body. For me, even though I have terrible eyesight and can’t really wear contacts, I love the color of my eyes. Even though my hair is falling out, I adore how red it is in the sunlight. Even though I have super pale skin, my ankles rock! In fact, skip the “even thoughs”! Just list what you love: I love the color of my eyes, the color of my hair, my ankles, my smile, my freckles, my curves.
 

Be An Example

I didn’t know much about the specifics of grammar when I started teaching it to my 7th grade students. But, I learned as I went, and I began to love diagramming and labeling sentences. I was enthusiastic and an expert for my students…but it definitely didn’t start out that way. Do the same with your body. You don’t want your kids, especially your daughters to be body-shaming themselves. So, set the example now. Fake it until you make it. Don’t obsess over scale-goals, calorie-counts, top-fashion clothes, expensive brands, etc. Be yourself, be happy, be confident, and that will bleed over into your children’s mentalities. Again, fake it until you make it. If it’s hard to concentrate on yourself, concentrate on your children’s body. Tell them directly what you love about them. They will then take that example and eventually begin to do the same for you and others.

 

Set Small Steps and Goals

We all would love to hit the ground running and immediately see success in our body. But, that’s not going to happen. Set small goals and try to focus on your overall life. Take a walk to the park, take the stairs, have a healthy lifestyle, read a book instead of watching trash-TV, smile more, take 10 extra minutes to do your hair and put basic makeup on, wear a clean shirt, enjoy hobbies, grow talents. By focusing on your life as a whole, you will come to have more self-confidence and be prouder of your self-image.

 

 

Sharlee

Screen Your Messages

In our day it’s not uncommon to let your ringing phone go to voicemail if you don’t know the number. We want to avoid any social situations that we’re not comfortable being in. It’s harder to screen the messages we’re spent daily. Whether it’s your current workout buddy or the fitness Instagram account you follow, make sure the way the messages you get from those things impact you is positive. It’s nobody’s fault if it’s not. It doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you or the other person, but if you find yourself feeling down or bad about yourself–remove the cause. Once you’ve made some progress, see if you can add some of those things back in without receiving those negative messages. I think this is a very important process for all things–not just body image–and something we need to have an awareness of at all times.

Move Your Body

Do things that make you FEEL good. That includes exercise, but find exercise you like or enjoy. Since becoming a stay at home mom, I have had the awesome opportunity to make time daily for at least 30 minutes of time to sweat (as I like to call it) and time for movement throughout the day as I play with my daughter, dance with her, vacuum the floor, and go on walks. The mental clarity and overall better view of life has been a direct result of daily exercise. It’s so good for you–but it’s even better if you enjoy it. This will allow you to listen to your body and feel good in your body-which will in turn help you to appreciate and value your body. Actively valuing your body will naturally lead to a healthier lifestyle. Sometimes when we try to force things, it makes us feel badly about our bodies or it almost seems like punishment. No matter where you are in your health journey, please don’t punish yourself. Love yourself and you’ll see how quickly your body will start to love you back.

Find a Support System

This will look different for every person. Not only do you need to remove negative influences, but you want to incorporate positive ones. Whether that’s an online community, family members, friends, or even divine influence–make sure you let everyone know what your goal is and that they can help you. I have personally let my husband know what kind of support I need from him and what my goals are ultimately. I have to be extremely clear with him. I have also been working really hard on working through some of my bigger issues with my Heavenly Father. Some of the LDS conference talks this past weekend are going to be studied in depth as I do so-including this one.

I am talking about my conscious decision not to lose the weight right now on the blog today while I work on some things to improve my body image. I plan to tackle all of the things I shared her today in-depth and more in the future. I’d love it if you wanted to join the conversation!

Sharlee from My New Lines
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Sharlee is a wife, mom, and the writer behind My New Lines. A blog about the things most important to her in her life as a woman. I don’t take many selfies or wear skinny jeans, but I exhaust myself trying to take a pictures of my daughter and revel in a good pair of PJ’s at night! Navigating life as a woman is always better with friends, I’d love to meet more!

 

How do you love your body?
Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.

Golden Vlog // October 2015

This month's Golden Vlog is all about being authentic and deep and honest.

Oh my goodness, this month’s Golden Vlog is deep and definitely authentic and raw. So, let’s just jump right in, shall we?

This month's Golden Vlog is all about being authentic and deep and honest.

 

Engagement, Bridal and, Wedding Pictures** 6 Ways to Love Your Body **

Life w/ Mrs G & the Artist
What are your insecurities? How are you overcoming them?
Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.

Golden Vlog // April

This month’s Golden Vlog is all about inner and outer beauty. It’s been a long journey for me to feel that I have both.

Have you noticed that I talk with my hands almost as much as I do with my mouth? Holy cow!

Also, here is a post I wrote on my view on postpartum self-image: I am Beautiful 

What do you think makes someone beautiful?

Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.

How Blogging Makes Me Brave

I’m pretty much an introvert. If you throw me into a crowd, I’ll be the quiet one, trying not to get in anyone’s way. If I go to a party, I’m typically the one doing all the listening and none of the talking. Even at dinner parties and family gatherings, I’m not one to talk unless asked a question. Aside from playing sports, I’m not a group person that much. I’d rather read or hang out with my family than go to a party or an event.

However, blogging has started to change me in the past three years.

It has started to make me brave.

I used to be an introvert. But slowly and surely, blogging is helping me to get out of my shell.

Group/Sponsored Events
When I first started blogging and going to group events or blogger parties, I was scared to death. I didn’t know anyone, I had a minuscule blog compared to most who were going, I didn’t fit in with trendy clothes, the latest iPhones, notebooks, or DSLRS. Everyone seemed to know each other and were having the time of their life staging photos. But, now, I try to take a plus 1 (either another blogger friend, or my husband). I’m not afraid to stage photos, because, hey, everyone else is doing it. And, I’m able to converse in some light chitchat with other bloggers.

Asking For Products
I used to wonder how lucky the bigger bloggers were to get so many free products to review and giveaway. I didn’t feel worthy of any product review since I was such a small blogger, so whenever I had the chance, I was beyond grateful for the opportunity. Last year, Provo started doing a food truck round up. There were tons of new food trucks, and it was both hipster and blogger mecca. I decided to home make some business cards because I’ve heard stories of presenting yourself as a blogger with a business card and getting some free products/food in exchange for a review. Well, at each food truck that we purchased something at, I handed them a card and hoped for some free addition. That didn’t happen, but it took a lot of gut to present myself. I’ve also done that once or twice on etsy, but my mistake was doing it around the holidays. I had a few Etsy owners say they’d love for me to do a review, but didn’t have any extra product to handout for free, but instead offered me a discount. I’m going to be working on a media kit in the next few weeks and put myself out there again. Even though I’m still quite the tiny blogger, I feel it’s a matter of presentation and confidence to get product for reviews.

Photos
I used to hate getting pictures of myself. I don’t believe that I’m photogenic and I just always look and feel awkward…getting our engagement photos done was murder for both of us! Fashion bloggers are always outside posing like models in public places. I’ve wanted to do a few fashion posts, too. But, being outside in front of my housing complex, with a tripod (and now an infant in a stroller), taking pictures of myself while cars and people pass by, is still embarrassing, but not as much as it used to be. I used to pretend like I was fixing my camera whenever someone came near. Now, I just grin, bear it, and wave.

Bigger Bloggers and Collaborations/Hosting Events
Bigger bloggers used to intimidate me. I felt unworthy in their presence. I remember last year, two of my favorite bloggers were pregnant and due at the same time as me. All three of us were teachers as well. So, I gathered up courage to ask them if they wanted to do a collaboration of our decision of staying a working mom or SAHM. I was sure they’d reject the idea, but they were both really into it! After going to a Scentsy party for one of my bigger blogger friends, I was thrilled to death when she asked if I wanted to host one for her. I now have quite a few bigger blogger friends with babies or toddler or are pregnant, so I decided to organize a baby play date. They were all wanting to come, but as plans rolled out, only half were able to make it, but it made me feel so good that they wanted to come in the first place!

Blogger Roundtable/Meetings
I love meeting other bloggers and getting tips and suggestions on how to improve my blogging. There are a lot of bigger bloggers with 1000s of followers, medium sized bloggers with 500+ followers, then there is me with 160-250ish on any given platform. I used to feel unworthy to add to the discussion–who would listen to someone who can’t seem to grow their blog big? However, I’ve been blogging for 6 years now am an avid blog reader and writer. I feel that I do know some know-how. On Saturday, I went to one of these. There were only four of us, and I knew all of them. Two were 1000+ followers, one with almost 1000. And me. But, I was able to explain how to use Latergramme on the laptop to them and something about Disquis. It made me feel so good. And the fact that they listened to me and made me feel just like them made me very confident.

Friendships and Confidence
Once I left Virginia after I graduated high school in 2008, something changed in me and it was harder to make and develop deep friendships. But, blogging has helped me through that. Yes, many of my friends are “online friends” who I probably will never meet in real life. But, we know every detail of each other’s lives, as if we’d been friends for years. And, some bloggers I have considered long-distance friends for years. Many bloggers here in Utah I’ve met in real life, exchanged phone numbers with, and talk with a lot. I love blogging for this very reason. I don’t and won’t feel alone. Next year, when I’m a full-time SAHM, I can just go online and hang out with friends, or I can call up one of my local blogger friends and go get brunch or have a playdate with them and their kids.

I feel better about myself because I am a blogger. I feel loved because I am a blogger. I feel like I go out of my box because I am a blogger. I feel confident because I am a blogger. I feel brave because I am a blogger.

How has blogging made you brave?

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Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.