The Positives of Living Near Family

I was a military brat when I was a kid and moved all over the country. However, my dad’s family was in Idaho and my mom’s was in Utah. I hardly ever lived near them. But, then I went to BYU in Utah and became close to them. Four years later, my dad retired and they moved back to my mom’s childhood home in Utah–only an hour and a half away from me!

I had grown up thinking I was independent and ready to be away from my family. I loved them dearly, but, you know how the saying goes: “Distance makes the heart grow fonder.” I also never planned to stay in Utah after I graduated college.

Now, I’m married, have a baby, and we both have good, promising jobs here in Utah (only living 30 minutes from my family). But, more than that, my husband has a brother and his family an hour and a half away from us, and his sister’s family is up in Boise (4.5 hour drive). His parents will be retiring to Utah in a few years. It looks like we’ll be here for at least 5 more hours. And, although I never thought I’d be saying this: I love living in Utah near family.

– If you don’t own a washer or dryer, free laundry over the weekends when you visit.
– Getting to see your little siblings’ concerts, plays, and competitions.
– Mom’s home cooking every now and then (plus you get to take home leftovers!).
– Free babysitting for date nights or emergencies.
– Going along with free babysitting–free overnight babysitting!!!
– Spending the holidays with family, or any day you feel like.
– A lot of support and help when you first give birth.
– Having your sister randomly come and visit you.
– Having mom help you sew your very first set of Christmas family stockings.
– Spending the weekend in a nice house while your parents take a weekend away.
– Continuing old family traditions.
– Having a safety net and large field of support.
– Having a place to stay just in case something catastrophic happened.
– The opportunity to strengthen your relationship with family.
– Most of your family (including extended) attending important events like weddings, births, baby blessings (like Christening), birthday parties, etc.
– Being able to leave town, or the state, and visit family, but it’s still quite close (Boise is only a 5 hour drive).
– Being able to have puppies without having them live in your house since you are allergic.
– Being able to have tax help while your baby plays with his little cousins.
– Being weird, new card and board games with your siblings.

Honestly, I’d be okay with staying in Utah indefinitely. Childhood me shouts, “Why would you want to live in the Mormon bubble?!?” But, I enjoy being close to family on both sides. The four years my family lived in CA while I lived in Provo, UT, I felt like I didn’t know my brother (7 years younger) and baby sister (10 years younger) anymore. But, now I do. I also want Rhys to have what I didn’t. I want Rhys to grow up having play dates and sleepovers with his cousins. I want him to be able to go to Grandma’s for the weekend and get spoiled while Momma and Daddy have a date night.

I love both families and I would like to stay near them!

What are some positives of living near your family? Or, if you don’t, why would you want to live near your family?



Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.
  • Living near family is so great!! I don't live close right now to mine but I miss it like crazy! I hope to some day be closer! The benefits far out weigh anything else I think. 🙂

  • I loved this! I always thought I would stay in Utah, especially once I married a Utah boy. But we LOVE Idaho and I honestly don't think we will ever more back. BUT we are excited to be moving back to Pocatello this summer —- a 3 hour drive to family is a much nicer trip than the 12 hour one it currently is 🙂

  • I can so relate with this! I moved around a ton when I was growing up and never had family close by. I definitely always saw myself continuing to move around but when I found out I was pregnant I realized just how much I wished I had my little family close by. Luckily, God answered my prayers and the rest of my family moved to the Springville area back in October. It's far enough that we can have independent lives, but close enough that we see each other fairly often. Now we just need my husband's father to retire so that my in-laws can move close by!

  • The one positive of living in Michigan was living close enough to my grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins to build strong relationships with them. I was really glad that I could be there for free babysitting–and they were always around to help with emergency car fix-its and home maintenance problems that Angel and I didn't know how to handle on our own. My youngest cousin is only about 9 months old now, she was born just before we moved, it's crazy to think of her growing up not knowing us when we were there at the hospital to visit her when she was born!

  • It's definitely so nice living near family! I love living near mine since Colby works late all the time, it gives me someone to go hang out with on weekends. Plus, my mom is always at Costco, so I can get her to buy us stuff instead of getting my own Costco card! Haha.

  • And then I can come visit you in June when I go to visit my family for Aberdeen days!

  • It's definitely an interesting turn of feelings when you have your own family.

  • It was always useful to have someone experienced to help us with grown-up things.

  • That's a plus to living near parents! 😉

  • I never thought I'd like living in Utah until I got here… now I wish my family would move here so they'd be closer, I keep telling them CA is too expensive! Reading your list makes me miss them. I would love to have my sisters randomly visit me, or to go have Sunday dinner with my family whenever. (Also.. I always see you comment on tons of different blogs that I read regularly, I don't know why I never popped in to introduce myself before now! Hello!)

  • Glad you found me, Ashley! Now that I've been spoiled by being close, I don't know that I could live far away again, although I'd love to physically leave Utah. If I could move to Virginia and transplant both sides of the family there, I would. Do you blog?

  • East coast, huh? I'm assuming you've lived in Virginia in the past, then? And yeah, I blog (somewhat sporadically)! I think if you click the little circle under my name in my Discus profile it should take you to the site, but if not… it's practicallyimperfectblog.com

  • Ya, I lived in VA for 8 years–5th grade to graduation.

  • Yay! Except we aren't moving back until the first week of July 🙁