5 Conversations to Have Before Moving in With Your Parents

We have been extremely blessed. We are lucky to live with my parents in such a loving, supportive home, with ALL the special items like cookware, and Dish TV! After my post on the positives of moving back in with your parents, I thought it would be useful to list all the different conversations you and your spouse should have with your parents before actually moving in. It is very important to do so before you move in! It will save everyone a lot of heartache and arguments.

Moving back in with your parents when you are married and have kids of your own can be stressful for all parties involved. Make sure to have these conversations before moving in to help ease the stress.

When to move in and out
It actually takes planning to decide when you will actually move in–you have to prepare to pack up and move out, rent a truck, cancel amenities, etc. Your parents need to make sure they have the resources and space available to help you out. But, you also need to coordinate, or at least have a plan, to move back out as well. We don’t know exactly when we are going to leave my parents’ house, but we have a ball park idea. This helps both parties plan and prepare for your stay.

What to take, what to store, and what to give away
You are moving into a small space–your entire house is not going to fit into a floor or a room. So, you will need to book a storage unit (preferably close to your parents’ house in case you need something). This is a perfect time to go through all of your stuff and declutter. Get rid of old and unused items, organize your files and important papers, give away opened or cold food. You will want to take as little as possible. We took our clothes, our video games, and Rhys’s toys. The rest of our house, including closed pantry food, is in our storage unit.

Rent and Amenities
You are extra bodies that take up space, need heating and cooing, water and electricity, and food. Talk ahead of time with your parents about what you should help out with–how much rent, if any, what amenities or grocery bills, etc. Now, my family doesn’t have a basement kitchen, so we’ve had a lot of discussion on food and meals, especially since my family works a lot later than Justin does. We have been very lucky on this point. Our rent is for Justin to be the math tutor for my sisters, and for me to not only be the English and history tutor, but also to watch the ENTIRE series of Downton Abbey (which my whole family is obsessed with and I have never seen a single episode). We are also giving my parents a flat check for groceries every month.

Duties and Position
You are not a guest. You are there long term. So, what chores will you help out with? What are your duties of the household? We will be keeping the basement clean, and since I will be the only one staying at home all day, I will help out with the dogs and keeping the main floor tidy. I will also be helping out with cooking. Justin and I will both be helping with driving, if need be, and Justin wants to help out with yard work.

Personal Space
What part of the house will you live in? For some, it will be one room, for others, an entire floor. For us, we have taken over the basement (one bedroom, one bathroom, and a family room). But, the kitchen is upstairs. So, you will need to discuss what is personal space and what isn’t. We have decided that everyone has free access to the entire house, but after a certain time at night, we all “retire to our corners.” This way, we still have a little haven, and my family doesn’t constantly feel like they have to entertain us.

What are some important discussion that you should have with your parents before moving in?

Tayler is a work at home mom. She does free lance articles and dabbles in graphic design and virtual assisting for bloggers. She spent 3 years as a history and English teacher. Her passions are her husband, two children, history, reading, nature, and her Savior, Jesus Christ.