Did you know that pride is a big deal to men? That success is what they strive for? They want to bring home the bacon. They want to be providers. They want to feel like they are successful.
I remember all too well two year ago how Justin’s feelings about his job affected us. He wasn’t using his major. He wasn’t enjoying the company culture. He was tired of the drama at work and all the scapegoats happening. Plus, I had stopped teaching to be a SAHM for my mental health. So, we couldn’t afford rent anymore. He had to move into his mother-in-law’s basement. I started suffering depression. He now had a 45 minute commute. And was suffering depression himself. Then, out of the blow, a week after we found out we were pregnant with Evelyn, Justin’s entire department was let-go.
Thankfully, Justin landed a job with Kubota Tractor, Company doing what he loves–statistical data analysis. Basically, he spends all day “playing” with Excel spreadsheets. Plus, it’s the same business as his dad (his dad works as a marketer for a competing company). Kubota moved us to Texas. Justin immediately started earning more than he did in Utah. He was given projects. He was sent to conferences. He was praised. The company culture was more professional: Justin, for the first time, had a dress standard. Work was important, not slouching off. Respect, not complaining or passing the blame, was the norm. Justin started to love his job.
But, my husband has a downfall. He thinks too little of himself. I know he can reach great heights (and his parents and my parents and all of our siblings combined agree). I don’t ever want him feeling as poorly as he did at his old job. So, I’ve been taking his job very seriously and doing my best to support him. Doing so will not only help my husband’s self-image, but will improve his work performance, the overall atmosphere of our home, my own attitude, and our relationship. So, I want to share with you some ways to help your husband feel successful at work.
Porn kills love. Did you know that? It does. Porn is a drug. It’s addictive. It’s harmful. It’s bad for society. And it’s time to fight the new drug.
I am repeatedly amazed by my little brother and my two sisters. They are tenacious, they are brilliant, they are activists. And, they all have been involved with the Fight the New Drug group and campaign. My baby sister (not really a baby–she’s a senior in high school) started a Fight the New Drug club at her school and was spotlighted on their Instagram page as one of the 12 Days of Fighters representatives. All three of them (including my brother-in-law) wear a #PornKillsLove shirt often. My baby sister wears hers every Friday.
Can you believe it? We have been married for five whole years. Five! That’s a little less than 1/5 of our lives! The first few months of our marriage seem so distant and far away and long ago. Yet, I can remember them with clarity.
We have been through so much in these short five years: trials, obstacles, financial woes, adventures, health issues, fights, cuddles, vacations, children, moving, losing jobs, finding jobs. We still have a lot of things we work on and a lot of things we fail when it comes to marriage. But, we are perfect for each other. We are poor when it comes to keeping goals but we make them together. We have so much fun together, but some nights are the boring lull of parenthood. Yet, I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Yesterday, I talked about my crushes, including some of my fictional crushes. Well, today, I’m going to talk about which fictional couples I think are great together and good examples of real and fictional love.
I have had so many crushes throughout my life. Just about every grade, I had at least one. College was insane with crushes…I mean, it was BYU after all…women go there to get their M.R.S. degree (haha!). Today, for #LoveBlog, we are going to be talking about crushes.
But first of all, obviously my crush every day of the year is my husband, Justin! So, I decided I thought it’d be fun to give you my “crushes” in other topics.