“A dream is a wish your heart makes.” We all know the lyrics to the Cinderella song. To me, dreams and wishes are the same thing. I’m not talking about dreams we have when we are sleep. I’m talking about day dreams, dreams of what our lives will be like in the future. Dreams and wishes are nice things to think about. And, I agree with Britt of My Little Sunshines that dreams don’t have to be big or radical. These are some dreams and wishes I have:Wishes and dreams are synonymous. Click To Tweet
For a year, I have wanted to write this post. But, time and inspiration always seemed to get the better of me. However, now that I’m in a new place and a new chapter of life, it seems like the perfect time to revisit this idea. A year ago, Britt of My Little Sunshines, wrote a post entitled, “When Your Dreams Are Small.”
In that post, she talked about how there is a trend going on, especially in social mdia, and especially with the #girlboss push, to chase after big and lofty dreams–saying they are achievable and the only acceptable type of dream to reach for. However, Britt really only had small dreams in comparison: have a healthy marriage to a loving husband, be a mother, and own a house.
It really struck me. I love Britt and one of the reasons I do is how humble and complacent she is. I definitely know that being content is a huge weakness of mine–it is why it’s part of my 2016 mission statement.
I feel that I have had lofty dreams in my life: I wanted to travel Europe more, even live there maybe. I wanted to be a nationwide famous fantasy author. I wanted to be one of the history specialists the History Channel uses in one of their documentaries of medieval history. I wanted to be such an inspirational teacher that I could be on par of those in the movies!
However, now that I’m growing up more, I’m starting to rethink my dreams. And, they aren’t really that big. But, they are achievable.
Now, many people, especially the #girlbosses, would say that I am giving up to easily. That all dreams are achievable with hard work and determination. And I believe that to be true. However, I know where my priorities are: my family and my religion. Many would say, “but you need to be your first priority.” No. God is my first priority, and through that, I am. My family completes me, so I still am my first priority.
My dreams now are still “big”, but not lofty. I mean, it would still be great if any of my lofty dreams came true, and I’m never going to give up on them, but I am starting to be a little smarter with my dreams.
- I want to be a proud Mama who teaches her children both spiritually and academically.
- I want to be the wife that my husband is proud to brag about.
- I want to be a home owner by the time I am 30 (I have 3.5 more years!!).
- I want to get a graduate degree.
- I want to become a history professor sometime in my life.
- I want to grow my blogging/virtual assisting/blog design/freelancing to the point where it can be a supplementary business…bring in a few hundred bucks a month.
These are big dreams in the sense that they are very important, life achievements. They are worth working towards. If I achieve only these, I will consider myself successful in life. I will be content.
Due to the whole summer “living in the moment” because of the whole “stupid computer died and I had to find a new one so I stopped blogging for a while” fiasco, Justin hasn’t made his usually monthly appearance for a while. Well, he’s back for another round of Guys Behind the Blog!
1) What’s the silliest thing you and your significant other have needed to compromise on?
It usually ends up being some sort of silly thing regarding food or some form of entertainment.
“Ok, fine, I’ll watch “What to Expect when You’re Expecting” if you watch “The Mighty Ducks.”
“Ok, we’ll get the onion ring appetizer, but no dessert this time!”
We will never compromise on who gets more strawberries.
2) If you were stranded on a deserted island, what 3 must haves would you bring with you?
First off, the premise states that this is a deserted island and I am stranded, so I couldn’t have / will not bring any form of transportation off said island….we clear on that? Good. I hate it when people say they’d bring an escape boat or something. It defies the premise.
And sadly, I don’t think I would bring anything with me. I’d prefer to remove myself from the “if only I had taken X instead of Y” kind of thing. I’d take nothing so I would regret nothing. No favorites.
3) Talents aside, what is your dream job?
Talents aside? Easy. 3rd string quarterback of an NFL team. I’m there for insurance, I was probably good in college, but not good enough to consistently play in the NFL. I’d make a lot of money for simply being there in case the starter gets injured AND the 1st backup gets injured. Additionally, the 3rd string quarterback is never expected to win games. He is simply there to be a serviceable person to run the offense. I would also get to work out with the team, So I would be in great shape too. Too good of a gig to pass up.
4) What are three things on your bucket list?
Have a grandchild
Live until I am 80
Eat a lot of Pizza.
5) What kind of date is your favorite to go on with your significant other? (Romantic, fun, spontaneous, etc.)
Our best dates have always been eating dinner at a nice restaurant and talking about our days, and then having our conversation diverted to the point where we are debating who would win in a fight, Iron man versus Batman, or the religious undertones in Avatar: The Last Airbender, or even the hypothetical scenario of what would a Frozen level look/act like in a Kingdom Hearts video game.
|Gourmet cupcakes made by my 14 year old sister (who was 13 at the time and had one arm in a cast!–ANYONE CAN COOK!)|
A Utility Player of Life–Schooling
I consider myself a life-long learner. I love learning new things, I love discovering new places, reading new stories, exploring new cultures. Favorite subjects of mine have been: History (any and all), English/literature (any and all), Creative Writing, Journalism, Anthropology, World Music, Drama, Sociology, Psychology, Anatomy and Physiology, Geography, Spanish, and Welsh. As you can see, it was a tough decision to do a History Teaching major and English Teaching minor. I would’ve done a Social Sciences composite, allowing me to teach any and all social sciences, but having to take government/political science and economy classes wasn’t worth it at all. So, I am content for now. But, I do plan on going back and getting a Geography endorsement. I also want to go to Grad school, but I don’t know what for yet. These are some of my ideas: medieval history, Welsh history, Tudor history, Arthurian lore, European myth and legend, creative writing…too many options!
As you can see, I am not a master in any one thing. Sometimes I wish I had a niche for myself: be the Etsy crafter creating jewelry or cute crochet items or printables, be the fashion blogger who works with Shabby Apple and Apricot Lane, be the writer who already has sent out inquiries, be the die-hard teacher who has sold lesson plans and planning binders, be the homemaker guru with organization tips and a couponing master, be the nomadic traveler who can photograph the world, be the star of a college sport team with a shot at the majors, be a performance-worthy instrumentalist who loves to give concerts. But, I am none of these because I want to be all of these.
That is one thing I wish for my children. I do want them to explore numerous options, yes, but I do want them to find their niche and prosper and grow in it. As for me, I guess my niche is the life-long learner, willing to try anything at least once, learn a bit of everything–a utility player.