I was a military brat when I was a kid and moved all over the country. However, my dad’s family was in Idaho and my mom’s was in Utah. I hardly ever lived near them. But, then I went to BYU in Utah and became close to them. Four years later, my dad retired and they moved back to my mom’s childhood home in Utah–only an hour and a half away from me!
I had grown up thinking I was independent and ready to be away from my family. I loved them dearly, but, you know how the saying goes: “Distance makes the heart grow fonder.” I also never planned to stay in Utah after I graduated college.
Now, I’m married, have a baby, and we both have good, promising jobs here in Utah (only living 30 minutes from my family). But, more than that, my husband has a brother and his family an hour and a half away from us, and his sister’s family is up in Boise (4.5 hour drive). His parents will be retiring to Utah in a few years. It looks like we’ll be here for at least 5 more hours. And, although I never thought I’d be saying this: I love living in Utah near family.
– If you don’t own a washer or dryer, free laundry over the weekends when you visit.
– Getting to see your little siblings’ concerts, plays, and competitions.
– Mom’s home cooking every now and then (plus you get to take home leftovers!).
– Free babysitting for date nights or emergencies.
– Going along with free babysitting–free overnight babysitting!!!
– Spending the holidays with family, or any day you feel like.
– A lot of support and help when you first give birth.
– Having your sister randomly come and visit you.
– Having mom help you sew your very first set of Christmas family stockings.
– Spending the weekend in a nice house while your parents take a weekend away.
– Continuing old family traditions.
– Having a safety net and large field of support.
– Having a place to stay just in case something catastrophic happened.
– The opportunity to strengthen your relationship with family.
– Most of your family (including extended) attending important events like weddings, births, baby blessings (like Christening), birthday parties, etc.
– Being able to leave town, or the state, and visit family, but it’s still quite close (Boise is only a 5 hour drive).
– Being able to have puppies without having them live in your house since you are allergic.
– Being able to have tax help while your baby plays with his little cousins.
– Being weird, new card and board games with your siblings.
Honestly, I’d be okay with staying in Utah indefinitely. Childhood me shouts, “Why would you want to live in the Mormon bubble?!?” But, I enjoy being close to family on both sides. The four years my family lived in CA while I lived in Provo, UT, I felt like I didn’t know my brother (7 years younger) and baby sister (10 years younger) anymore. But, now I do. I also want Rhys to have what I didn’t. I want Rhys to grow up having play dates and sleepovers with his cousins. I want him to be able to go to Grandma’s for the weekend and get spoiled while Momma and Daddy have a date night.
I love both families and I would like to stay near them!
What are some positives of living near your family? Or, if you don’t, why would you want to live near your family?